Getting fed up with DHs attitude

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Im 38+4wks preg with DS3 and from 26wks spent 10wks in hospital with placenta previa (sp?) during that time was sent home to end up bleeding within 24 hrs (in front of my 5yr old) and had to go back in again. I have been home for 3 weeks now and am not allowed to do ANYTHING otherwise I could risk another bleed.
While I know this is hard on EVERYONE around me my DH just cant seem to understand it.
Ive been told not to go out yet he wants to me go to the cinema with him- I know this isnt really physical but im really scared of another bleed (and last time it was a gush and even though I was wearing black trousers it was still noticable).
He is also really suffering in the sex department and its getting him down. I still give him oral &hand jobs etc and I miss sex too but hes still not happy &Keeps trying to 'talk' me into gentle sex, trying to make out that its to induce labour but I dont want to risk it.
He knows hes upsetting me, I know he loves me & I know he wont cheat on me. But he is really getting me down so much.
Ive explained why I dont want to do things and cant do things and he completely understands but he just wont stop going on at me.
He can still go out with his mates and do everyday stuff while im stuck at home allowed to do NOTHING and im so bored, but he feels he is worse off.
Why can blokes be so selfish?

what an awful situation to be in
tbh I thiunk yoyr a saint giving him bj's and hj's consdietring all that you're going through

why are you still giving him hj & bj. He doesn't have an automatic right to them and I'm assuming he has his own hand.

Tell him to grow up. You are having a very difficult time at the moment and he needs to step up and look after you ffs. He should be waiting on you hand and foot not moaning that he is horny and it is hard on him.

He is being incrediably selfish.

I would refuse to listen or participate in his moaning. Walk out the room if necessary.

TBH he sounds like an arse to me.

Does he not understand the seriousness of the situation? This isn't really about whether he's upsetting you or not. Does he not realise that he could be putting you and bub in danger by insisting on having sex?

TBH I think you need to kick him into touch. His behaviour and attitude are unacceptable, end of.

When will he turn 10?

Please tell him to get real

I know he doesnt have an automatic right to them -as im constantly telling him cause I get a lot of indigestion so sometimes thats the last thing I want to do!! But at the same time i do sympathise with him cause it is hard on him too and I want him to be happy still.
Its just so frustrating that he is so selfish...it was easier in a way when I was in hospital cause at least I got a break from his whinging.
I told him point blank im not doing it cause I dont wanna be away from my boys again or put me or baby in danger, but he just sulks!!

And yeah he is being an arsehole! Im just so sick of it.

If the situation was reversed , yeah, I know it can't be, etc, would you be expecting him to 'service' you etc? I bet not. He is totally out of order.

Blokes sounds like a wanker. Actually, no, scrub that... if he was a wanker he wouldn't be harassing you!

Arsehole fits the bill.

He is selfish because you have allowed him to be through being a lovely wife.

No more.

You feel crap and just need to rest.

Does he not realise how serious PP is?

Tell him to go to the cinema on his own and then get yourself into bed with some chocolate and magazines.

No more BJ's or HJ's. He needs to get used to solo sex for when the baby comes anyway.

And don't fall for the bringting labour on sex as if he is doing you a favour...

Do you have parents or a fantastic best friend you could go and stay with for a few days? ell him you'll come home when he stops moaning and harrassing you. Tell him you are on doctors orders to rest and it is IMPOSSIBLE to relax while still living under the same roof as him.

He is a selfish idiot. He is wanting to put your life and the life of your unborn child at risk because he wants sex? Words fail me.

I think you're a saint!

I was extremely ill for months in my last pregnancy. DG had to work full time and do the shopping, cooking, child care etc. Sex was right off the menu for months. He never complained.

DH - not DG. Obviously.

He was great while I was in hospital, done housework, worked fulltime, shopping etc. Like I said I didnt hear much of his whinging them but now im home I get it constantly.
I told him to go to the cinema with his mates and I told him watch as much porn as he wants- not my sort of thing usually but I know he has needs& will keep him off my back hopefully.
Hes been fishing today and when he came back I told him im not doing things just cause he wants & he apologised....but dont know how long it'll last again.
The thing that annoys me the most is he knows how stubborn I am- if I dont want to do something I wont and no amount of nagging will change that but yet he still trys.
I just dont look forward to him coming home from work and I dont want to feel like that bout my husband.