Do I have aright to be tired

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DH works full time and has just been away to USA on a business trip for 8 days to USA. I know he is tired and jet lagged. He landed yesterday at 3pm and then stayed with family in London as he was to tired to make the 100 mile train journey home !!! Decided this before he went and has had a lie in this morning and is getting the 11am train home. He has just said to be why are you tired. We have a 4 and 5 year old and I work 0.5wte plus we are going on holiday today so I have got everything ready for this

Yes you do. Can't believe he doesn't understand that. You need to take a nap today, no question.

preparing for a holiday alone would be justification for a nap never mind looking after little ones alone and working. tell him its happening. you deserve it.

now that he is rested and has only had to sit on a train for an hour or so maybe you shold hand him the kids and go out for a bit this afternoon so you can get some 'me' time.

I could have written that! DH is just back from the US after 8 days. Was home at 8.15am on Friday and went to bed after half an hour or so to sleep off the jet lag. Didn't surface till lunchtime today and is still tired. Has spent most of the time he was awake on the computer yesterday

Like you I work part time, 4 kids older than yours, but it's still tiring. We aren't going on holiday though - you have every right to be tired.

this used to be a big bone of contention between me and exh. In fact I used to think that he should have gone into a holding place after coming back from a trip for a few days because all he used to do when he returned was moan about the state of the house, sleep and not join in with family life.

Meanwhile I had struggled to hold things together for the time he was away as well as working full time.

I honestly think he though that he had more right to be tired than me and that his trip was of course more important then my keeping things ticking over at home.

Trips abroad and the strain they put on us were a contributory factor to our marriage break up.

Not saying that this is par for the course, of course.

my dp is away for 10days at the moment (we are half way through atm!) my dcs are 10, 3 and 22m. hard work! and its half term next week. anyway dp has not gone overseas just up north. he's desperate to get home to kids and under no illusion i will need a break on his return (roll on Friday!)He should appreciate what you've had to do or maybe try it himself sometime!!