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Are friendships/girlfriends too much like hard work or is it just me??!!

6 replies

momofha · 22/05/2009 17:48

Ok I am not going to rule out that I am a pretty sensitive person and sometimes I take offence way too easily but I am starting to think that I am going to draw a line under friendships as they just seem to take up so much energy and are way too much like hard work. I have to say that sometimes I think woman definetly are "bitches" and just downright catty and I just dont think I have the energy for it anymore with 3 young children. Is it crazy to think I could survive without girlfriends and just have acquaintances and instead focus my energies on my kiddos.

My recent experience was with a close friend who felt it necessary to tear apart my 5 year old on an outing by constantly telling him off for being "naughty" before I could even get a word in! He was so upset that on the way home asked me if she hated him! I never said a word till she texted me later in the day to say I should come over for a play. I said I wasnt sure since my DS seemed to irritate her today. She got all angry with me and now we are at loggerheads. It is making it so uncomfortable as we share the same circle of friends.

I think I am so done with friends!!!

OP posts:
ActingNormal · 22/05/2009 18:43

Maybe you have just had a bad day and won't feel this way tomorrow? Not everyone is like that particular friend. Good friends shouldn't feel like hard work, if they do then maybe those people are wrong for you. There will be other people who are right for you.

lynniep · 22/05/2009 18:51

yeah you definately have the wrong friend. It should be a relief to see them!

ingles2 · 22/05/2009 18:54

she's the wrong friend for you momofha... but why didn't you say something at the time? You should have defended your son if she was being OTT.

hobbgoblin · 22/05/2009 18:55

The way people behave towards us is as much defined by the people we are and the ways we behave as it is by the personality of those we have relationships with.

I'd hazard a guess that an injection of assertiveness and a smidgen of laissez faire would solve your problem.

smackapacka · 22/05/2009 18:58

Does she have children? Is that the only thing you are 'bound' by?

jardy · 22/05/2009 20:21

Your so called friend sounds awful.
You however sound lovely.Dont take it to heart.Sensitive people make great friends - and shouldnt have to be assertive.

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