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The one who got away.

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poshsinglemum · 20/05/2009 14:20

The other week I met a guy who I used to go to uni with. I havn't seen him for ten years.
I liked him at uni but we were both attached and I think he quite liked me. We hung out a lot when I split up with my first long term boyfriend but we didn't get together as I was too messed up at the time.
I am currently single and feel quite sad that we didn't get together back then as I still think he's nice.
Does anyone else have regrets about the one who got away?

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Neena28 · 20/05/2009 14:25

Is he not still single then?

I know what you mean though...leaves you wondering?

I was in a relationship with someone that I still think is my 'one' but it broke down totally and I think is irrepairable. I think if if I had met him in another set of circumstances we would be very happy for a long time.

Difficult topic.

GypsyMoth · 20/05/2009 14:29

well,yes,have got regrets. but like most aspects of life,the grass isn't always greener is it? and really,they are all nice.....in the beginning.

OrangeFish · 20/05/2009 14:32

erm... not yet
There was a boyfriend I missed for years... gosh... saw him a few years ago, good heavens!, glad that didn't work! I was spared a good one...

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poshsinglemum · 20/05/2009 14:33

Not sure if he's single tbh. I've a feeling he's not. I was with dd and he asked me what my partner does. I just said that it was complicated as did not want to go into my single parenthood etc too much. I dropped a subtle hint and said that he was out of the country.
We didn't exchange numbers.
We always meet just as I'm having a relationship fuck up/ a bit screwed up. The timing is never right.
Yes, they are all nice in the beginning!

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poshwellies · 20/05/2009 14:35

Never had 'one that got away'-they usually ran off on their own accord or I got rid as they weren't all that.

Don't look back at the past I say,always to the future.

Neena28 · 20/05/2009 14:43

I feel like I am not 'posh' enough to be posting on this thread!

Are you definatly single then? Can you contact him anyway (thru facebook etc?) maybe it is the friendship you are missing not the relationship? Why not get in touch and met him for a drink (I realise that is a) hard to get courage to do and b) not always easy with your lo). Then you can rekindle the friendship and see how things go from there.

For god's sake though DO NOT watch the movie Serendipity! I recorded it and watched it last night, cheesy but totally on this subject! I sobbed so this thread is very apt!

Neena28 · 20/05/2009 14:43

I feel like I am not 'posh' enough to be posting on this thread!

Are you definatly single then? Can you contact him anyway (thru facebook etc?) maybe it is the friendship you are missing not the relationship? Why not get in touch and met him for a drink (I realise that is a) hard to get courage to do and b) not always easy with your lo). Then you can rekindle the friendship and see how things go from there.

For god's sake though DO NOT watch the movie Serendipity! I recorded it and watched it last night, cheesy but totally on this subject! I sobbed so this thread is very apt!

Neena28 · 20/05/2009 14:43

Sorry cat made me jump when i pressed post!

poshwellies · 20/05/2009 14:45

Neena I just have posh wellingtons,I'm as common as muck

Peachy · 20/05/2009 14:47

I thought so, until I met him again last year.

Has been divorced twice, was incredibly rude (accused me of ruining his life- we were 18 and his Mum wouldn't let him out ffs) and his Morher was still there running the show (one of those Baptism things where they do a batch at once- complete coincidence my nephew and his child there together)

Damned lucky escape!

AND just as you would hope in your dreams, I did look pretty good that day(for once): ha!

cheekysealion · 22/05/2009 16:55

i got back in touch with my one that got away 6 months ago... afetr 15 years of no contact

It has been really hard and emotional for both of us to be honest... we were both single and i kind of thought it was fate we have spent a few cheeky nights together

the one major problem though is that he still feels so much resentment that we lost touch in the circumtances that we lost touch in... even though we were never together back then but we should have been iyswim....

he doesnt really want to get into a relationship he has been badly scarred by women!!! and says he will never let a women get to him like i got to him back then...

but we have kind of reached a crunch point with us as i dont really want to carry on with this casual arrangement... so we need to decide if we are going to move it foward or just be friends - which will be so hard as the chemistry is just the same between us as it was back then.... I really dont know which was it will go

CherryChoc · 22/05/2009 17:11

Oh the one that got away... Will never quite forgive myself for letting him go actually! We never quite got together but nearly did... by the time I told him how I felt he said he wished I'd said something earlier

Ahem.

There's also my first love, I split with him because I knew he'd always make me miserable (and he did... when I was away from him and could think clearly) but it just broke my heart. I still miss little things he would do sometimes, I know it's silly.

Actually I'm quite glad my "One That Got Away" stayed that way - it would have been such a letdown had we got together and it had all gone wrong.

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