I have been with my ex p for almost four long years. I have been feeling a some time now that the relationship isnt going in the direction i want it to go. And although i was inlove and loved him and vise visa, it was becoming more unbearable to stay in a relationship that for me seemed stuck. We are both in our late 20's, i have a ds who is 6 and i want more children. We didnt live together, i wantyed married and kids, he said he did also but there seemd to be no plans in the making and everything became talk and stress. I saw him once a week and for me that was not helping the relationship grow.
My decision came out of the blue. I wanted him to take care of my ds on saturday because i was feeling poorly and again it seemed that i had entered a scene in world war three. It was always a battle if i wanted to infringe on his saturdays and although he'd eventually said yes he made it a chore and frankly id become fed up with this attitude.
So i just spatted it out, and i havent looked back since. Infact i am ever so certain that this is the right decision for me and my son. But of course there are feelings between me and my ex. He obviously has taken it badly and refuses to speak to me. I can completely understand his reaction but i dont want it to interfere with the relationship he has with my son. I know that may seem selfish but my son calls him dad and he has been in his life since he was 2. Does the fact that we have ended means they have also?? I hope not!