Its high time I got out of this crappy marriage, I am mentally preparing myself

[wanttobealone]

I have name changed as I am
a regular,

my marriage is a shambles, my husband is an alcoholic but lives in denial of this.

He has got us into 15 grands worth of debt, which he will not help me pay.

The final straw was yesterday, he cleared my last £50 out of my purse and didnt leave enough for me & the 3 children to live on this week.(not even enough for a loaf of bread)
There was uproar I told him if he didnt give it back I would let his parents know whats been going on, he was a total prick and threw £40 back at me calling me a "fucking nag"
I asked him to leave, I know I need to get out as I have been on & off prozac for 3 years and the depression took its toll.

I told him it is not fair for all of us to live like this anymore, he needs serious help with his drinking.

Apart from an anger I felt yesterday today I woke up feeling quite calm like I am mentally preparing myself for this change in my & my 3 childrens lives.

Thanks for reading

WELL DONE.
Keep going on this path.
You know it makes sense

Good luck

Glad you feel you're reaching the point where you can make actual changes

Have you heard of Al-Anon before?

well done

would al anon be a help to you?

i do hope things are more positive for you once you make the break.

thanks

What is al anon?

www.al-anonuk.org.uk

Have a look and see what you think

Essentially, it's support for you, not the drinker. But by you getting support might in turn help the drinker to face some of the consequences of their addiction

Thanks for the link.

Yes, it may be helpful,I need to find the support for myself and my children, not him (he needs to help himself), the alcohol has taken over our lives for so long, I just cant have let anymore.

I want to be happy again and see myself & my children have this burden lifted off our shoulders, it has weighed us down for too long

I wish you and your family the very best

wishing you luck also, keep posting.

Good luck and keep posting, we are here.

wanttobealone - sounds like what happened with me and XP.

The final straw for me was when checked our joint account to see if the housing benefit had been paid yet, after we'd moved into a new house. He'd taken it out and spent it on weed before I'd even seen it. Money was tight as it was and he'd also eaten the last of the food from the fridge, leaving our 4 year old DS without any dinner that evening.

I didn't even bother threatening to tell his parents - I called them straight away and told them I was chucking him out, which I did.

4 years on, me and DS are in our own home, DS has contact with XP in his and I have a new DP who doesn't live with us but who is very lovely.

It can be done

Wishing you luck and strength for the raod ahead, wanttobealone, sounds like you are doing the right thing.

You have to think of yourself, and you are without realising it getting stronger every day. Well done and keep going, stay calm you will find a way out!