How do you know when you're the maniac...

[RedCharityBonney]

... and when it's someone else?

[HolyGuacamole]

example?

[bigchris]

ask mumsnetters in the 'am I being unreasonable' topic
we'll tell you asap if you're the maniac

[RedCharityBonney]

I think I mean just in general. I can't ask netters about everything - I'd be on here all day.
Are there any infallible signs?

[HolyGuacamole]

I honestly think it depends on individual situations. It would be hard to say a blanket statement that covers all types of behaviour.

Even one little tiny example just as a guide?

[bigchris]

you do sound a bit manic to me

[GettingaGrip]

The usual answer to this is....if you thinks it's you it probably isn't!!!

This is because the people who are usually the maniacs would never ever consider that it is them.... As they are Perfect!!!!

[GettingaGrip]

think

[MeMySonAndI]

What kind of maniac? far too many types...

[RedCharityBonney]

Gee, thanks bigchris!

Nothing to tell really holyguacamole - I just wondered how 'normal' people tell when they're being unreasonable.

I was rought up by mentalists you see, and sometimes need help to know what's really right and what's madness.

[ActingNormal]

When you feel like you are being extreme but you can't think of an obvious logical explanation for why you feel as intense as you do then you are 'the maniac'

[Overmydeadbody]

We really do need examples

[cherryblossoms]

Ummm. How about you get yourself a really good, trusted circle of friends, whose judgement you trust? Then you run various situations past them and ask their opinion.

There isn't any easy way to see if you're bonkers. but you can at least tell, then, if you are a. consistent and b. in line with the judgement of others whose opnions and judgements you respect.

Problems with this: a. your circle of trusted friends will have been selected by you, and may be at serious variance with mainstream judgements and b. they will have to pronounce judgement on the story you tell them, which may well have been coloured by your perceptions, which may well be "off".

So tricky, really.

As everyone else says, we'll need examples.

What has been going on? Is it stuff about birth family?

[cherryblossoms]

Sorry. Apologise about "bonkers" (trying for lighthearted - possibly deeply inappropriate) - please substitute "the maniac".

[RedCharityBonney]

Bonkers is ok