How often to you go up to bed with DH/DP at the same time?

[lonelyatnight]

For a while now I have noticed me and DH rarely go to bed at the same time, if I go to bed he stays up if I stay up he goes to bed. It's beginning to get me down especially since he now works 7 days a week and we hardly ever see each other.

So is it just me or is this normal?

[IneedacleanerIamalazyslattern]

Always at the same time. Once Dp went to bed while I was still on the phone to a friend but I wasn't that far behind him that he was asleep when I got there. We manage a bit of nookie most nights too think it helps going up together.

[ByTheSea]

Always, unless one of us is away. Sometimes one or the other of us (usually me) will fall asleep on the sofa, but we always go up together.

[FigmentOfYourImagination]

We go to bed together pretty much every night. Probably one night a month we go to bed separately. He does work away prob 10 nights a month so we do spend nights apart anyway.

We have been together 8yrs, married for almost 6yr, if that makes a difference.

[EvenBetaDad]

Everynight. I had been sleeping separately for a while last year as I was not well or just going to bed several hours later than DW and it is an easy habit to get into. I have put a stop to that now.

We have also made a promise to go to bed earlier when we move to our new house as we will have a nicer bedroom which we can also use as a place to relax and talk before sleeping.

[TheOtherMaryPoppinsDiets]

Every night, very rare not to and it would usually be me if I'm not well going to bed early.

I'd really miss that special time with him and I don't know why but feels wrong somehow to not go to bed together when you are a couple.

[DrNortherner]

We never go to bed at the same time, never have. I always go first, I like to read, snuggle, think and then sleep. Dh comes up with me and lies with me whilst we chat for about 10 mins then he comes back downstairs for a few hours. If we ever have to be in bed at the same time I hate it cause it takes me longer to nod off.

[Bleatblurt]

Never. In fact I'm usually asleep when DH comes up. But we don't share a bed either.

We spend most of the day together so it's not like we have little alone time and want to spend some time in bed chatting.

[warthog]

we go to bed at the same time. for a while we didn't and i really hated it.

[EvenBetaDad]

That is how I felt too.

[OrmIrian]

We have different body clocks. One of us would be hanging if we insisted on keeping the same hours all the time.

[nikki1978]

Every night unless one of us has been out very late. Have to have our bed time cuddles and usually sex too

I think I would be sad if we went to bed together seperately and would feel something was missing from our relationship.

I suppose we have our whole evening together (dinner, tv and chatting then bed). If we were doing different things from each other in the evening then maybe it would happen. We will use the laptop in bed of either of us wants to use the PC late at night so we can still have our cuddles.

[Meglet]

Me and ex p rarely went to bed together, a huge bugbear of mine . I would go up at 10ish and he would say he'd be a few mins then appear over an hour later. A couple of nights a week he'd be out on the town until 2am and would have to sleep downstairs as he was an awful snorer.

[sayithowitis]

Hardly ever at the same time. I usually go first and he follows a shorth while later. He is usually there at about the same time as I get out of the bathroom or soon after. Even though there are times he sits up to watch tv (sports) he always gives me at least a cuddle when he comes up, and often more!

[flowerybeanbag]

Every night, unless one of us is out late or working late, but even then it would have to be exceptionally late. DH is working at the moment and although I'm very tired I'm pootling about on MN next to him on my laptop rather than go up to bed by myself. If it was going to be another hour I'd go to bed but he assures me it will be 5 mins...

I'd find it weird not to go up together tbh, unless absolutely necessary.

[Weegiemum]

When would I do my mumsnetting?

Seriously, we try to go to bed together but I need about 2 hours less sleep every night and so often I stay up late, go on MN and read the paper. Its my "me" time!

But I always go up with him if he asks me to

[gigglewitch]

same as weegie

[Weegiemum]

In fact, tonight I went up with him, than came down again after he went to sleep.

IYSWIM

[gigglewitch]

at coming up and down

[gigglewitch]

that sounds even ruder than it was meant to be...

[Weegiemum]

.... up and down certainly featured......

[gigglewitch]

as did coming no doubt

[Weegiemum]

night night