And now i know the truth.

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Ive just found out the real reason my marriage failed.
He was sleeping with a 20 year old. Ive found her facebook page with pics of them and messages about him dating back to nov 08.
I moved back in with him ( after being apart for 2 years because of his cheating) in sept 08. Literally 2 months after he was sleeping wwith her.
Ive printed all the info i need from her pages as proof.
What makes me more angry is the first time he saw his daughter since dec ( mid april) he had his girlfriend over too and she was bosting about having a great weekend with dan and isabelle.
I am fuming! My poor child. I shouldnt have let her go. She was going through a tough time and even her nursery said it probably wasnt a good idea.
now i find this out.
Screw him.
Now i know why my marriage failed really.
And i have proof of adultery
FUCKER

am so sorry you've found this out - but you are right, he is obv a fucker.

hope someone with more constructive advice comes along soon x

No wonder you are angry and you have every right to be furious.

You can hold your head up high knowing that you tried and whilst he has been faffing around, you have been the one parenting your child and doing the caring. He is showing himself for what he is by not seeing his child for 4 months and by not being honest with you and giving you fair choice to get out of the marriage based on his affair. Sneaky b*stard!

The absolute best thing that you can do is to work thru your anger and when you start to feel more calm, make your life the way that you want it. Sort yourself out in terms of your rights and finances. I know it may not seem like it right now, but finding out the information thru facebook is a blessing in disguise, it lets you know where you stand and gives you a new point in your life to start from when you feel ready. Turn the anger into determination to do what you need to do to have a happy life without him.

Wishing you luck.

I'm so sorry to hear this has happened to you. My friend is currently having issues with her partner who started to cheat on her when she was pg with her second child and moved out when said child was a few months old.

He's now moved back, but surprise surprise, OW has managed to get hold of his new mobile number and is back in touch. She never removed him from her list of friends on FB and nothing has been said about the split on her part, so I'm guessing he's still involved with her.

This is what she's telling my friend too.

It's hard to say based on a short post, but my first instinct is you are much better off without this man. Any bloke who can cheat on his wife and neglect his child/children as a result of an affair doesn't deserve said woman/children.

Stay strong and use your anger to make you stronger.

i'm sorry this has happened to you but glad he has showed his true colors and gives you a chance to move on

the only thing you can be sure of is he'll do the same to her or her to him and by then you'll be happy either with new partner or on your own

i do feel for you and it will be painful for a while but time really is a great healer

Yeah you're better off without him, definetely (the fucker). It hurts now but in the future you won't be watching your back all the time.

It just hurts so much. Shes 19 ive since found out. Hes 31. There are pictures of her on facebook in her bedroom sourounded by cuddly toys and pictures of winnie the pooh. That is just sick.
He started fucking her only a month after we made a fdrsh start to be a family.
and had her round the first weekend with his daughter and never told me.
It hurts so much.
I know i am better off without him, - there is no doubt about that. But it still hurts so much.

im sorry it hurts but just think she's young and immature he has probably done this to control her

his not worth the hassle he will hurt her or she'll mature and not want him anymore and they have done you a favor it cant be nice to have your child there but as long as dd doesn't get hurt then all you can ask for is he spends time with her alone

you will get through this and be a stronger person for it he has shown his true colors thank fully early enough in again to show you your better off without him

sending big hugs to you keep your chin up you are better off just picture yourself being able to find mr right now who will treat you as you deserve