Uncovering and discovering affairs after split with husband.

[jenemmanuel]

We split up eighteen months ago. Only recently I discovered he'd been having an affair and today two more (at least).
I'd got over the split (more or less) and now feel devastated that the last ten years have been a lie.

What on earth do you do in such a situation? I thought we were fairly happy, but now every memory is tainted as I connect it to "that was when he was so-and-so.
I feel there must be others as these are the ones I've found proof of. We have two children together too.
I feel as bad as I did when we first split up

I had this experience too. So many things plopped into place after we'd split.

I wasn't sad it ended and glad to see the back of the idiot. But it does make you think, 'he shit all over my unconditional love'...

Don't despair. It's too late now to go ferreting and poking around all that stuff. Move on, look up and over it and learn from it. Don't take responsibility for his infidelity. Some men are just lieing cheating bastards and mine was one of them. When I think of all the things I did out of love and he must have been sniggering up his sleeve. It just made me hate him more. But hate is a strong emotion and requires a lot of energy to uphold. Best move on and rebuild yourself. Separate the memories, remember them as good things and just don't poke around in the painful stuff... what good does it do. Move on and learn. Done and dusted.

What Kally says, fab post.