problem with dh

[pinkroses]

My dh doesn't seem to want sex anymore. Is this something men go through at a certain age?

I have tried everything, but he just says he's tired. Then if we do have sex, he turns very selfish, as if I'm not there.

I know he isn't having an affair or anything...just wondering what could have happened. IS this him going through a mid-life crisis or something. He has mentioned about wanting a tatoo.

im sorry things are no better,i cant advise you because i am in more or less the same situation,but i hope some one else can help or advise you

my dp has turned me down although I am pg at the moment so he says that's why. He tried to be nice about it but says he just isn't into it with the bump and all and didn't want to discuss it cos it was late and he just wanted to read. It's frustrating when they won't let you talk it over, I got the fear because I was of the mind that we should be taking advantage of the last bit of baby free time we've got and also I am scared of the physical changes I'm gonna go through. I said 'what if that's it? what if you go off me for good then?' and he said 'I can't be doing with this insecurity thing - it's a very unattractive quality' i said bloody hell you'd feel insecure too in my position but he assured me it was nothing serious he just doesn't fancy it now, so that's months and months of no sex as we'll have a new baby soon. I fear it'll ever get back to normal. Anyway I didn't mean to ramble on about myself there sorry!
I agree it's very disconserting when your man goes off sex cos all you get is advice on how to dampen their ardour isn't it? If he can't come up with a reason though, you really will have to have it out with him until he cracks, it's just not fair. He's not questioning his sexuality is he? Tell him you need it and it's not good enough that he's emotionally closing you out. not fair!!!

God, I think I could compete with another woman...but imagine another man!!! I couldn't compete with that.

You know it is really maddening that he won't talk to me about what is wrong. I am meant to be the person he confides in, but I'm not. He just keeps his mouth shut over anything that bothers him.

Guess I'll have to learn to live without sex It's a shame, I did enjoy it.

ps...sorry about your dh bubblegirl. Men really are a hindrance aren't they!!!!