Okay this may be long but I'll try and keep it concise.
DH is in the forces. I live 300 miles away from family & friends with our DS.
DH is notorious for going on a bender when at an army night out. Over the past 18 months or so, he has gone out with his army mates and just not come home till the next day. I have been furious over this and stated in o uncertain terms that this is unacceptable and have said that I would be okay with it if I got a phone call at least to stop the lting awake at 4 am wondering where he is situation.
Last weekend was an army social event that he had my blessing to go to (we are skint at the mo and he had army activities planned for this weekend but was still okay with it). He took the piss as usual and just didn't come home. When he turned up the next morning, he said his phone had ran out of power at 8pm so couldn't phone. I asked why he didn't use a payphone, he said he doesn't know my/our housephne numer (true by the way, he doesn't even know his own). He got so pissed and ended up in a part of London where he couldn't get back and so slept in a hotel corridor.
Cue much arguing and me saying I've had enough etc. He said what did I want him to do and I said not get yourself in such a situation where you can't fecking get home.
Cue this weeks activities.... yesterday he had a dinner/drinks thing he had to attend in the afternoon. said he wold be home at 5ish as the transport homeleft at 4. Rang me at 5 ish saying transport had been delayed and would be home 7ish. Not best pleased as thought he was just pulling the I want to stay out longer excuse. Rolled in at 6.20 completely ratarsed and promptly fell asleep at 7.15 for the rest of the night.
Yesterday, a march and then more drinks, expected home at 6 ish again. Rang me to say he wuld be home at 8ish as some of his seniors were taking him for more drinks. Had a rant and said why can't you just come home. Me and my DS have been ill with cold all weekend, I am a witness in a court case next week and am stressed about that and have no friends/family in this area. He said he would be home at 8ish. He then rang me at 8 saying he was staying out longer and would be home at 12. I have to admit I ranted as thats the whole weekend with him in a completely pissed state and no help to me and my DS bearing in mind what had happened the weekend before.
He came home at 11.45 completely ratarsed again and was trying to get into bed with ds and I. Eventually got him in the spare room.
This morning, all I am getting from him is that he doesn't see what my problem is as he rang me and told me he was going to be late. I said that should be a given not something to b congratulated on and that he should have just come home at dinertime when he said he would. He copletely fails to see my point and just keeps reiterating that he rang me and told me and that I knew this weekend wold belike this.
So, am I being a PITA or is he? Feel fed up that I'm always being treat like this.
I havetried to put all info in so as not to drip feed but I just don't know what to do anymore.
TIA