Paranoid?

[MiaWallace]

I don?t know if I?m paranoid or socially inept. I?m struggling to understand this myself at the moment, so sorry if it doesn?t make much sense.

I fear I?m one of those people who are oblivious to the fact that they have an inappropriate sense of humor and say inappropriate things. I have always struggled to make friends but I currently have a few different social groups that I see on an irregular basis. Recently I?ve been aware of a lot of weird looks when I say things and when I was out with ?friends? last night I caught one of them rolling their eyes at another when I was speaking.

Both my parents struggle in social situations and have very few friends and I?m now worried that I never learnt how to behave correctly when with others. I don?t like the thought that maybe I could be one of those people that others are pleasant enough face-to-face but sigh with relief when I leave. I?m also worried that if I?m right that I may struggle to teach my dd how to behave socially and she will end up with the same problems.

Alternatively, I may be becoming really paranoid and none of these things are really happening. Part of me thinks this if I really am suffering this level of paranoia that this maybe worse that being a social misfit.

Help!

what were you saying when she rolled her eyes?

what sort of things do you say that get you these weird looks?

I'm struggling to think of what I actually say when this happens. Suppose I just need to be more aware of what I'm saying and see if I can recognise a pattern of what's causing these reactions.

Thanks for the response mrsboogie.

you have got to learn to lvoe/like yourself.
have confidence in what you are saying.

I would say if you are actually worried about it (as opposed to totally unaware) then you can't be that bad. But it would help to know the kind of thing you mean to be able to judge whether you are just a bit left field or its something else going on.

No wonder you feel awkward if people are rolling their eyes at you. We all say out of place things sometimes, but you are right to monitor it. Is there anyone you can trust enough to ask?

I've just spoken to my ex about it, who I get on well with. He says that a lot of the weird looks maybe due to them struggling to understand what I'm saying because I have a very strong Welsh accent and live in England.

He did confirm that I can be a bit paranoid and tend to over think social situations. He also said my black sense of humor can be difficult for some people to relate to.

Feel better now, I maybe be a bit weird but not a complete oddball.

you sound lovely to me.

What were you saying when the girl rolled her eyes last night?

Have to say you seem blimmin' lovely to me.

Awww thanks.

I think I may have made a 'joke' and on reflection it probably wasn't the best time.

My sense of humour is off at times too,i am the person who laughs at things they really shouldnt do.

Maybe its a welsh thing

I think you maybe right, my humour doesn't seem so off when I'm at home.

Or maybe its a social class thing. My background is very working class and my social circle now is very middle class. Maybe I'm just too common

fuck them

Maybe you are mixing with a lot of very boring mundane herd animals who shit themselves when they encounter anything outside their very limited experience.