Sorry don't really know where to put this and it could be long.
My friend (I will call her Sarah) is stuck in a difficult situation and doesn't know where to turn next. So I was hoping any MNers with experience with SS or other child help organisations can advise her.
Sarah has a dp who has a 13 year old sister (I'll call her Jan). Jan and the dp's mother is an eccentric woman who is a head teacher at a SN school - which makes this even more surprising.
When Jan was one month old, the mother decided that she was not getting enough attention from her current partner and so set herself on fire (that was her reason anyway - I am sure that there is a whole other lot of factors going on there but that is the story I got told). She then spent the next 8 months in the hospital while Sarah's dp and another younger sister looked after Jan.
According to her she had a full psychiatric report done and they found nothing wrong with her .
Sarah has known Jan now for eight years and she constantly wets herself, even at 13, and lies about the fact that she has done it. She also wanders around naked at home, and does a poo where she feels like it. She wears a nappy at night and sleeps in a sleeping bag because of the fact she wets herself. She is bullied a lot at school because of this.
The mother will not accept that there is anything wrong and thinks she will grow out of this behaviour. Sarah is desperate to help, but has tried talking about it to her dp and the mother and they basically tell her to mind her own business, and that one day she will be fine - double .
Anyway Sarah would like to know if she can anonymously do anything about this - she is nervous of ss in case they take Jan away, but she would like to ask if there is someway that Jan can be given the help she needs.