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Did you marry "below you" ?

16 replies

CajunSquirrel · 30/04/2009 18:07

Ok I'll try and rephrase the question to be less offensive.

What I mean is, did you see something in your partner that nobody else could see. Do people consider you 'better' than your partner? If they didn't know you, would people consider you 'out of his league'? Were people shocked at your choice when they met him?

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bamboostalks · 30/04/2009 18:08

"All women marry below them, they marry men".
I think that is Dorothy Parker but I'll stand corrected.

Overmydeadbody · 30/04/2009 18:11

Yes, definately.

Thankfully I divorced him two years later. I guess I had thought I could see something in him that others couldn't, but it was just a youthful mistake in retrospect.

I hasten to add, he wasn't so much below me in looks, but definately in upbringing and class.

misdee · 30/04/2009 18:13

peter jokes he married below his station, he is finsbury park and i'm kings cross.

cheeky b*gger

Overmydeadbody · 30/04/2009 18:13

bamboostalks I love that, brilliant.

StarlightMcKenzie · 30/04/2009 18:13

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BCNS · 30/04/2009 18:14

yes according to family and friends. But at the time he was perfect for me, although we are now seperated.

diedandgonetodevon · 30/04/2009 18:15

According to some, yes I did but have never considered that the case and apart from my sister neither did my family. We're very happy and well suited personality wise and he doesn't mind me taking the piss out of his mc ways!!

Tortington · 30/04/2009 18:21

yes. he lived on a council estate - unemployed dad- bones of his arse skint.

i was an only child in an affluent working class home who never ever ever did without - i even had my knickers warmed on the fire for me before i went to school

this partic council estate was considered the arse end of the universe.

i can safely say, everyone was horrified ( plus dh is a ging)

Tortington · 30/04/2009 18:21

with an umemployed dad - he wasn't one himselF!

Kally · 30/04/2009 18:22

Well my ex offered my Mum 50 camels but she said our garden wasn't big enough....

LadyOfWaffle · 30/04/2009 18:23

Mum my thinks I did, she used to call him all sorts (socialist/council estate scum (he has never lived in a council house!) and the same to me for 'lowering myself'. She blames me dropping out of education for not finding "someone better". My sisters BF hates my mum but she dotes on him because he went to Uni.

ooh, rant over!

Vaguely · 30/04/2009 18:30

fuck me, you really think some people are 'below' others?
what in? worth? and the home you are born into decides this does it?
farkin ada.

pagwatch · 30/04/2009 18:34

My Dhs parents thought he hads married below him. And my mum thought I had married prince charles. she used to near curtsey

squeaver · 30/04/2009 18:35

Oh yes

And I never let him forget it

StarlightMcKenzie · 30/04/2009 18:43

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elliepac · 30/04/2009 18:45

Mum thought I did but she is a terrible snob. In her words, i still remember them to this day, he came from a broken home, was in trouble at school and with the police in his formative years and he had no qualifications to speak of, and no job...what was i thinking? 13 years and 2 DC's later she has just about finally accepted him for who he is and not what he was. ALthough she still pulls a funny face when he uses his fork the wrong way round (at least the wrong way her far more superior world!) Bless her!

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