SIL does not want me to take my DD to local (safe) park.

[LOVEMYMUM]

I have a 14 month old daughter who is toddling around.

My sister-in-law lives near a park with a playground. She has 4 daughters between 3 and 12. She doesn't like taking them there because she says it's "dangerous", which it is not, it's clean and full of children at weekends.

My problem is, what do i say to her when I want to take my daughter there from her house. I want my daughter to see her cousins (SIL does not drive, so can't come to me). When it's good weather, why should I contain my daughter within their house after 2 hours.

I want to say, "Do you really think I would do anything that would endanger LO or myself?".

What do others think?

I would go to hers via the park, point it out to your DD and make a big fuss about it so she asks to go, then you have a great excuse to go!

Onepiece, that sounds a bit like SIL.

Her children were kept indoors last summer holidays cos she "had to clean". They don't have any outdoor playthings. I bought them skipping ropes and never saw them again.

My other SIL says that our MIL tells her that everything is dangerous, maybe she is too much under her influence.

LOVEMYMUM perhaps we have the same sil? She struggles with her own sister's children as they are boys and consequently "dirty" and "noisy" (actually come to think of it my dd1 is a bit like that, perhaps that's why we don't see much of sil and bil)

My sil has to stay in very frequently to "get her jobs done". She gets very anxious about clothes getting dirty. She told me (quite pointedly I think as my dcs rarely get changed during the day) that she regularly changes her dd's clothes 4 times a day if they are dirty.

On the plus side anything passed on to me is in pristine condition. It is always put straight into a delicate wash and practically brand new when her dd has grown out of it!

Does sound like my SIL.

The clothes I've had from her have been worn but pristine.

Do we all have the same SIL?

We went there in Nov or Dec and after lunch I HAD to get my boys out for a bit of fresh air. Nice day but cold. She wouldn't let her DD go (aged 9) because she was a bit chesty (she wasn't), but eventually DD and her DH won.

Lots of other SIL stories, but I ought to be working!

I would just say that I've promised DD and will be giong to the park at xpm as DD will get fractious without a trip out and she/they are welcome to join you.

Sounds like my sil. If she saw anyone, would probably be given diagnosis of OCD. My nieces are teenagers now and embarassed by her

Hi lilredwig.

That seems to be the best thing for me to say.

I don't care what they say about me, I just don't want lectures.