What would damage the kids more....
Bringing them up on a sink estate where they can't play out, even in their own garden because of misiles being thrown over the fence ... stones at the windows ... constant rubbish in the garden ... crap schools full of "hooligans in training" ... even worse secondary schools where the GCSE pass rate is 10% ....
Or ....
Moving in with a new partner (very nice and great with the kids) maybe a little too soon into the relationship BUT which would in turn banish all the problems from the 1st scenario.
Please advice because I really don't know what to do anymore. My partner is a lovely man, he takes the children swimming on his own, takes me wherever I want to go, cooks for us (sent a batch of home-baked flap jacks home for the kids today!), wants the same things that I do out of life ...
But we've only been together 6 months. But I don't know how much longer I can cope living where I do I feel like I'm failing the kids and I'm terrified they will grow up in gangs, dropping out of school etc just like all the other kids around here.
So the question is ... what would do more harm? staying here or rushing into a #living together' arrangement?