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Feel hurt for my DH

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busterk · 26/04/2009 19:01

Background - DH has 3 brothers and 1 sister. 2 brothers and sister live away.
BIL and SIL (and 2 kids) live in same area as PIL. DH, myself and DD live 20 mins away from PIL.
At present FIL is away working abroad so MIL is on her own. PIL have a dog. MIL struggles sometimes with the dog on her own.
Since FIL went away DH has went over nearly everyweek (Give or take a few) to take dog out a long walk (on his day off which he could have been spending with us). Anyway BIL has taken dog out at night when it was dark and snowing (Don't know how often TBH)

Last week the dog needed picked up from the kennels, DH went with MIL to get him. MILs Car broke down on Dual carraigeway (Ended up a nightmare) DH nearly spent all Saturday night helping with AA and Dog etc.

Hadn't heard from MIL all week to see what had happened with car. DH phoned her last night. Only to be told 'If it hadn't been for BIL she wouldn't have been able to cope with the dog over the winter'

I know i am prob feeling a bit over sensitive, but i feel for DH.

Sorry just wanted to rant. Prob wouldn't even bother most folk.

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mumblecrumble · 26/04/2009 21:01

I;d be pissed.
Feel free to rant....

Blackduck · 26/04/2009 21:13

Yes you can feel hurt for him, but is HE bothered? It's taken me an eon, but what I think is an issue for dp so often isn't, it's how I would feel, he doesn't feel it at all. Its his family so maybe he gets them and you don't...

jenk1 · 26/04/2009 21:26

busterk-can relate to you on this,certain things with PIL what they say how they treat DH infuriates me,but he doesnt see a problem.

he always says well thats just them,and i will be seething but have learnt i can tell him what i think but not to expect him to do anything about it as he is a mild mannered man and doesnt like to rock the boat.

its soooooooo annoying tho isnt it?

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busterk · 27/04/2009 11:28

I think recently things are starting to bother DH. Mainly the lack of interest in our DD compared to other grandchildren.

You are right in what you say jenk sometimes DH doesn't see things as a problem. PIL are not very involved whereas i am used to my parents who are really involved so maybe i expect too much?

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