What do I do?

[SadandUnhappy]

I have namechangedas DH knows my normal MN name.

I am married, we have a mortgage and a 2yr old dd. We have been together 10 years this year.

I think we have come to the end of our relationship. Money worries combined with growing apart make me want to leave and start a new life. He knows how bad things are between us.

What should my first steps be. I dont want to live in this house with him anymore. Neither of us any family we can turn to and our closest friends are not really in a position to help either of us long term as they all have families of their own to look after.

How do I leave? Where do I go? Obv. dd would come with me. I dont want to livein this house without him as I hate this house and our area. So I want to be the one to go.

I'm so confused

can anyone help?

have you tried any sort of counselling or trying to repair the relationship. 10 yr is a long time to give up on without getting help first.

If you've really decided that nothing at all can fix things ie counselling, then I would suggest you make an app with the CAB.

It may also be worth making an app with a solicitor - I think that you can get 1/2 hr or maybe even an hr for free.

I don't really know what else to say - do you have any money of your 'own'? Have you actually discussed any of the practicalities of splitting up with him ie I know you want to leave the house/area but have you considered him leaving the house and you staying until its sold?? Could it work?

Anyway, I'm sure there are others with better advice than me, just didn't want to read and run.