Oh i am so mad!!!
Bit of background - i am the only child of my mum and dads marraige, and my mum had four kids with her first husband, and my dad had four with his first wife, then they met and had me. I have varying degrees of relationships with my siblings - i was brought up to reguard them as my brothers and sisters and the fact that we had different fathers/mothers was irrelevent. My husband died last August, leaving me with two young children.
My mother died last october, although she had been estranged from my dad for almost eighteen months beforehand, and they were in the process of a very messy divorce when she died. My mother made a new will when she left my dad and it transpires she left her half of the house to her five children, to be split five ways.
Now the house in question is the house my dad grew up in, the house that my nana and grandad bought when they were first married (can you see where this is going yet? )
This morning, my sister - same mother different father - rings me and says that she's had a letter from my dads solicitor saying that as far as she (the solicitor) is aware then the most recent will she has belonging to my mum is a will she made in 1988, leaving everything to my dad. My sister was absolutely livid, saying that my dad had no right to send this ect. Managed to calm her down and i ring my dad only to find he had no idea that his solicitor had sent it, so ring sister back and tell her all she has to do is get the solicitor who holds the last will my mother made to send it to my dads solicitor and there won't be an issue.
But no. Apparently her and my brother (same mother) have been talking and are considering trying to force my dad to either buy their share of the house outright from them, or force him to sell up.
Am afraid that this is where i lost it. My DD is due to be Christened on the 2nd of May and my sister was supposed to be her godmother. I know my sister has been struggling financially of late (haven't we all?) but i offered to pay the train fare for her and my neice and nephew to come down - she livesin Lancashire, i'm in Swansea. I'd really like her to be there, but i can't see it now - am afraid i told her i was sick to death of being the bloody go between in her and my dads arguments, and wasn't putting up with it any longer. I've had such a tough and emotionally draining year and all i want to do is spend DD's special day with the people that i love and that are important to me, but no. She has to go and spoil it all over again. DD was due to be christened on Mothers day this year - i was, as was boyo, and would have liked flossy done then too, but because it was the first mothers day without our mum and i knew my sister was struggling, i put it off to go up to Lancs to be there to support her.
I'm just so sick of putting all this effort in and getting nothing back. She's now not talking to me - but what can i do? I don't want to see my dad thrown out of the only home he's known. I feel like i'm being forced to choose between them. It's really hard and just what i don't need right now.