Handling stupid crush on married bloke

[nonfecklessperson]

I don't want to make anything out of it, neither do I think it is acceptable or O.K. in any way.

What I'm asking is what you do, if you suddenly find yourself thinking about a bloke a bit too much.

Can you talk yourself out of it? Maybe distraction would work, I don't know. I'm not interested in affairs, hate them, don't want to overstep the mark. I like talking to him. Can I just be friends with him?

Sorry am obviously not very good at this stuff. I am a regular poster btw.

Thanks for any salutary advice.

if you know his wife...then surely you should step off? keeping busy helps but maybe you need to socialise outside of work with your friends and meet somebody that way? it does sound like you're incredibly lonely...and, correct me if i'm wrong (which i may be), probably have some important issues which you're avoiding doing by daydreaming. displacement activity, etc.

if its a high pressure environment such as a hospital or a police station, somewhere where its real life or death, then suddnely colleagues do become quite attractive, but its best not to go there especially if he's married...and you've met his wife!!!!