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Love after divorce?

14 replies

London7 · 21/04/2009 21:29

What are the chances that one finds love again after divorce? I have only ever experienced love once (my ex-husband) and I dread to think that it may never happen again...

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citronella · 21/04/2009 21:34

Wish I knew!

upthespout · 21/04/2009 21:57

It will happen again. When I got divorced I thought I'd never have a happy moment again, but after a few false starts, I met an amazing guy on the internet - match - , of all places! I think he's going to propose very soon and I am still amazed at the transformation in my life in the last 12 months.

I wish you all the very best for the future and I'm sure you will find love again. x

BCNS · 21/04/2009 21:58

oh goodness yes there is love out there

YanknCock · 21/04/2009 23:35

I started a very casual fling with someone just two weeks after giving up on my marriage (to be fair, it had been in the toilet for yonks already). What started out with no expectations became love within a few months. New partner saw me through a bitter divorce, and we got engaged the moment it was final. Got married this past January and are having our first child in August.

He is my best friend and I can't believe how lucky I am to have him. Sometimes I wonder if my first marriage's only purpose was to get me to this country so I could meet DH2.

gingerwine · 21/04/2009 23:35

It's out there, really it is. After my ex H left me and our dcs to be with the other woman I certainly never thought I'd find love again. Things couldn't have been much worse to be honest. That was 3 1/2 years ago and here I am happily married to my DH of 8 months. We were introduced by mutual matchmaking friends (less than a year after I was a single and before I thought I was ready to be honest) and within 6 weeks of meeting found ourselves discussing our future together. Just concentrate on being happy within yourself and maybe look at internet dating or start a new hobby or take up a new sport. There are ways of meeting people. Don't lose heart.

MeMySonAndI · 22/04/2009 00:40

I don't know what are the chances but when exH and I decided to split I was expecting to be single for the rest of my life... 18m on, we both have had a serious relationship which we ended and are well into the second... so there's hope

jabberwocky · 22/04/2009 01:20

I consider my first marriage the "practice marriage". It has made me realize what is truly important in relationships.

MuthaHubbard · 22/04/2009 16:16

I hope so too!

Ex H and I separated over 18 months ago and the absolute granted in March. I had a very intense relationship after that, but that has unfortunately come to end (thought not through my choice).

Am hoping that if love could happen once, it might just happen again....

Hawkmoth · 22/04/2009 16:28

I'm the same as jabberwocky.

After divorce I had a year of 'fun', culminating in a surprise unplanned pregnancy to someone totally unsuitable... but I got my wonderful DD all to myself as he doesn't want to know.

Two and a half years after she was born (after not even a sniff from a male!) there were three men knocking on the door, including the fellow who's clearly the love of my life. It's not been easy, some horrible times, and some desperately lonely times where I looked back at XH through rose-tinted glasses... but now I'm sure everything happens for a reason. I've helped DP through some very tough times, and we're having a baby in August.

I have to say, this love is different to anything in the past. It was like a partnership from the start, and that's what made me realise it was the real thing, and for keeps.

fourkids · 22/04/2009 18:14

jabberwocky, I agree...I'm not sure I'd be brave enough to put it so blatently , but in terms of learning what is and isn't important, what's the best way to do things and what isn't, in fact what is love and what isn't, I'm a much wiser woman than I was!

I married Mr Oh-So-Wrong (for me at any rate) the first time, but since then I met and married Mr Perfectly-Gorgeously-Handsomely-Wonderfully-Right

Mind you, I was happy to accept when my marriage ended that I might be single forever...in fact i fully intended to never get involve with one of those horrid, smelly, bad-tempered, demanding, over-sexed, male people ever ever again!! I didn't know that there were Mr Rights out there...didn't know they existed...then...

MuffinBaker · 22/04/2009 18:15

upthespout, are you?

jabberwocky · 22/04/2009 18:43

lol, fourkids I guess I am more blunt these days.

YanknCock · 22/04/2009 19:50

I'd have called my first a 'practice marriage' or a 'starter marriage' if I'd been clever enough to think of it first!

I learned loads about what was important to me in a relationship, and what things I could not compromise on. I'm not sure I would appreciate DH2 quite as much if I hadn't been so unhappy with XH. I shouldn't compare them, but I can't help it.

butterfly74 · 22/04/2009 22:14

I didn't think I would ever be able to love anyone again after my ex husband left 5 years ago. But 2 years ago I got married again to a man I love more than I thought possible. I met him on a dating site 'Dating Direct'. Something I would have sneered at in the past but I'm bloody glad I got talked into giving it a go!!! So the moral of the story is 'YES' you will find love again if you go and find it. I was terrified of dating again but actually had a great time meeting new people til I finally found my DH. Have fun. Life is for living

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