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Little things are starting to grate on me

11 replies

JammedOff · 20/04/2009 17:16

I have been seeing someone for about 2 months. When I first met him he stuttered a lot, I assumed it was because he was nervous with it being a new relationship. However it has not got any better and I know I sound evil but it drives me nuts.

Like today:

"That's on it's way....That's on it's way ... That's ... Thats....Thats on ... thats on its way to Flo .... Flo.... Flo...Florida"

I know he can't help it but half way through whatever he's saying I find myself wanting to tell him to shut up. It really angers me for some reason. It's so irritating.

Another thing is the way he constantly SHOUTS. Like we were sat watching a movie the other night and he started telling me this story in a normal voice, then all of a sudden when it got to the 'climax' he jumped up and started shouting and balling. This was gone midnight.

And then today, he got a cold caller on his mobile. He talked to her reluctantly for a while and then all of a sudden shouted really fast "Iwon't be interested so I won't waste your time Bye" he then shut the phone off quickly and turned to me with a big grin as if expecting some kind of approval or praise.

But then I AM in a really shitty mood lately, is it me or him?

OP posts:
BlingDreaming · 20/04/2009 17:21

Doesn't matter. If he's irritating you this much after only 20 months, doesn't matter if he's the nicest guy in the world - clearly you're not feeling it.

This is why you get to know people - so that if you have instant, unreasonable reasons to find them irritating, you get to move on before you commit yourself.

I have a friend who dumped a man for now knowing that taking her to dinner on an important milestone involved more than the local pizza hut - poor bloke didn't stand a chance and she was being a bit harsh, but... she had the right at date 3 to say to herself and him, "there's just no meeting of minds here, sorry".

BlingDreaming · 20/04/2009 17:21

2 months. Not 20!

mrsmaidamess · 20/04/2009 17:24

Well you sound like you are in a shitty mood, and your comments about his stutter are frankly .

MuffinBaker · 20/04/2009 17:26

Finish it now.

For his sake.

junglist1 · 20/04/2009 23:23

If he's irritating you like this, just leave it. In a new relationship normally you don't see their faults, if he's grating on you this much now, I fear for his safety if you get to the 7 year itch!

blinks · 20/04/2009 23:37

if someone i meet stutters i presume it is because they have A STUTTER. i wouldn't expect it to magically disappear after a set period of time.

i also imagine most people can imagine what a stutter sounds like without your needing to spell it out.

so f f f f fffffuckoff.

lisad123 · 20/04/2009 23:43

think your very unkind, especially about his stutter.
I would leave him now, he deserves better

Stretch · 20/04/2009 23:56

Poor guy!

TheLadyEvenstar · 21/04/2009 00:01

Poor poor guy....Don't you have any "inperfections" we can all take the piss out of? cos seems like you are having fun at this guys expense

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 21/04/2009 00:59

you do sound evil. Try reading up about what a stutter is before you take the piss. He deserves someone who will be kind to him, not cruel.

thumbwitch · 21/04/2009 01:03

give up now - let the poor man go and find someone who won't be irritated by his unfortunate speech impediment.

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