What do I want from DH?

[npg1]

Basically DH is writing an essay for his course about himself and has asked me to tell him 'what i actually want' from him.

So now I have clamme dup and cant think really what I want from hi, can you suggest somethings that maybe able to help me. Basically I want him to be able to come home in the evenings to be with us, pay me more attention and compiments, apreciate me and what I do for the family, have nice things. How can I send this in an email to him?!

how about that for a brilliant opportunity to remind each other what your needs are from your relationship?

not 'this is what i want you to do differently, but, what it means to me to be loved by someone.'?

and you both do it?

you sound like you know exactly what you want to me!
What is his course?

He is doing an MBA business course. Has been a VERY hard year for us both, he doesnt finish until september and has to write an essay on himself and wants to know what i want from him.

Thing is I dont know how to write it in an email. He is away all week and im on my own with the kids so i have to emai him this and dont know what to say!!!! (in a nice way that he will understand!)

Fourkids, dont really understand......?

Just write it!

Why can't you e-mail him with a list? What are you worried about if you send him an e-mail with the things you have written here?

sorry...unclear!

It depends exactly what he wants you to say to him...what you want from him isn't really the same as him writing abut himself, but presumably he wants tu use it in some way to feed into what he writes?

I meant that you could use it as an opportunity to say to each other 'these are the things I want out of my DP' rather than 'this is what i want you to do that you don't do'

so you could say:
'in my perfect marriage i would see my DH every night, and when he got home he would have switched off from the world outside. he would come in and notice that i have vacuumed (even though, or all the more so because) I do that every day.
he would realise that the fact our DCs have nice manners is because I set a good example, and he would say so.
he would cherish me, make me a coffee in the morning, notice when I look extra nice, tell me I'm sexy, send me to bed with a magazine and nurofen when i have a headache etc'

and, so it cannot be in any way an attack, you could suggest he does the same - which ought to feed into his essay also because it would also make him look at himself in a different way maybe?

or as others have said, you could just say what you said in your OP

fourkids, thats exactly what I was looking for, thank you. Letting him know how I feel but without pointing the finger. Thank you

npg1, no problem!

Maybe we should all do this every now and then!