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Dreaming about fictional 'other' men.

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dreamer09 · 18/04/2009 23:19

Oh dear, feeling guilty because I dreamt about fictional other men - 2 days in a row. Its not something I'd ever think of during waking hours.

I'd feel super annoyed if I thought DP would consider cheating on me, even in his sleep. We've been together 5 years, with 1 DC. I don't want to be a woman who looks at other men...

Do other women have these dreams/thoughts?

It is crappy because we talk about EVERYTHING and I always admit everything I think or do, but this is not something to chat about with DP - because if i actually tell him i have dreams like this then he'll get paranoid about late nights at work etc.

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YanknCock · 19/04/2009 00:09

Silly to feel guilty about it--you can't control what you dream about!

Just because you dream about something, it doesn't mean you are considering doing it. You'd be very misguided to get annoyed about it if your DP did have a dream about someone else.

Yes, loads of women have these dreams. Completely NOT unusual.

BecauseImWorthIt · 19/04/2009 00:12

Don't be silly!

They're dreams, nothing more.

Enjoy them. Ignore them.

Even more ridiculous if your DP was to get jealous about your dreams - it does suggest that you are very insecure in your relationship.

expatinscotland · 19/04/2009 00:14

They don't exist! What's to feel guilty about?

CurlyhairedAssassin · 19/04/2009 00:19

If I have a sexy dream, I tell DH in the morning and say things like "He was well fit!" and we both have a laugh about it! To be jealous about someone else's dream is a bit strange. I can understand it if you are dreaming about a real man who you work with or whatever, and you dream about them very often, but then I'd be asking myself WHY I'm subconsciously thinking about them.....

if it's just a random sexy dream with a ficitonal bloke, then just enjoy!

BTW, are you ovulating do you think? I think its quite common to have sexy dreams at those times of the month.

Technofairy · 19/04/2009 00:31

Don't give it another thought. I regularly wake up after having dreamt about having very hot sex with blokes I know, that in real life I wouldn't and don't look twice at.

Yeah, I feel a bit embarrassed but I don't let it bother me and I certainly don't tell DP. Gawd knows what he's dreaming about! It's a dream, nothing more. I've never had any attraction to the people I've dreamt about and the dreams haven't made me feel differently about them.

I think CurlyhairedAssassin might have a good point. I once had a very, very vivid dream that I was giving birth long before I ever did and woke up to find that there was no baby sleeping beside me but that my period had started. Hormones have a lot to answer for!

MrsMerryHenry · 19/04/2009 00:37

When I do dream about men I fancy (well, okay, The Clooney ) it's never steamy.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 19/04/2009 01:14

god ladies enjoy
beats a nightmare any time

expatinscotland · 19/04/2009 01:15

God, yes. Fictional man/celebrity man + rabbit = good time, no one gets hurt.

cornsilk · 19/04/2009 01:18

I was thinking of you tonight expat as I was watching the boxset of the Tudors. Not in a rabbit way of course, it's your brain I'm after.

expatinscotland · 19/04/2009 01:19

Sorry, but one must refer to the rabbit as Bob.

Battery-operated boyfriend.

cornsilk · 19/04/2009 01:21

Sorry - I think MNHQ need to add that one in to their list.

expatinscotland · 19/04/2009 01:23

Bob is always at the ready, he never moans about getting a blow job or anal sex or that you need a wax. And he always gets you off in record time so you can get some sleep.

cornsilk · 19/04/2009 01:24

I haven't got a bob. Maybe I should....

expatinscotland · 19/04/2009 01:25

Best 45 quid I ever spent.

cornsilk · 19/04/2009 01:26

Did you get it online?

expatinscotland · 19/04/2009 01:28

Of course I did!

From one of solidgold's links.

I think it was like 'nicetoys' or that.

cornsilk · 19/04/2009 01:29

So Solidgold deals in Bobs then?

expatinscotland · 19/04/2009 01:29

no, she just mentioned a website. twas a couple of years ago, though.

solidgoldshaggingbunnies · 19/04/2009 01:30

Oh I am of people who have good erotic dreams. Mine are always endless frustration or alarmingly explicit sex with people I really, really wouldn't do (Ronald Reagan!?!?!)

cornsilk · 19/04/2009 01:31

Solidgold I hear you deal in Bobs?

solidgoldshaggingbunnies · 19/04/2009 01:33

Can recommend you a website or two if you want to buy one

CurvesRUs · 19/04/2009 01:33

i only do it when i am awake and having sex with my lover or using my vibrator whilst he watches

aseriouslyblondemoment · 19/04/2009 01:40

rofl
where would we be without you solid
says the woman back from another crap date who def wont be having mucky dreams about him

solidgoldshaggingbunnies · 19/04/2009 01:49

Ok so you could go to Lovehoney - or this lot and if you pick the latter and they ask you for a promotional code say 'Blue' - it won't get you a discount but it might get me a commission . BOBs galore.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 19/04/2009 01:59

oh ffs!
fair play you!
ROFL here!!
little cottage industry in the makings me thinks

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