splitting up,how on earth is it done financially?

[sas45]

dh and i have decided to seperate. We have 2 dd, a mortgage and no spare cash. Where on earth do we start? He has offered to move out but where too! Cann't afford rent. Anyone with any advice please?

work 30 hrs a week so can not get income support. Will get small amount towards mortgage i think.

Hi
Hope everyone is ok today, thanks for the message SAS45. I told my DD's teacher yesterday now that she knows just incase she is upset at school and her behaviour changes, so she said she would keep an eye on her. So it is now really out in the open now, feel relived DD knows now. She seems alright with everything at the mo, but i suppose we haven't moved yet I am due to move next friday and i really cannot wait although all the financial stuff will have to be sorted out asap, just feel I will be me again which I haven't been for at least 3 years. Think I will breathe a big sigh of relief once I am out of this house!! SAS45 have decided what you will do with your house yet?

Thanks Riven. Hoping to work hard to stay in house! Seem a bit in limbo at mo as not wanting too many to know until dd's are told and don't want to tell them until H has found somwhere to move to so we have something concrete to tell them, like dad is moving to this street, and they can see it. Or maybe am stalling for time!Hope you have a good weekend Hinchy with your dd. Off to work, speak soon x

Hi Hope everyone has had a good weekend, just thought I would come on here and have a rant!!
My wonderful husband has now decided he wants to see our daughter every other weekend and then 3 days during the week when she is not at his on a weekend I think this is too much don't know whether to keep my mouth shut until we move and see what happens as he is usually full of hot air. Didn't know what anyone else would do in this situation he is saying if I don't agree with this he doesn't want access at all he is such a Pr**k! he also started being verbally abusive in front of our daughter god I hate him !

Hi Hinchy, Sorry to hear of your run in with H.Your first priority is obviously what is best for you dd so he needs to be flexible i suppose as she may need to be with you more when you first move, she will need time to settle into your new home before spending loads of time at his. But then as my H and i are on fairly good terms at the mo and i work shifts,i know my dd's will be seeing him most days! Don't really know what else to say. Being abusive infront of dd is so not on but it's been done in our house and it makes me so angry. Keep strong x

Hi Everyone . How are you ? x