He doesn't want another child, what do I do?

[Sheen4272]

Last night I mentioned I may like to have another baby in the future (we have one DD nearly 12mths). DH has two girls from a previous relationship (12 & 9) but doesn't want anymore. I thought I would only want one child but the thought of not having another one makes me feel sad and empty. When he said he didn't want one I said a stupid thing like going off to find someone who I can have a baby with. Obviously this didn't go down well and I apologised and said I didn't mean it. Am I being selfish wanting another when he doesn't? Any body else been in this situation? Should I except I'll only have DD? Stupid question I suppose as I don't have a choice.

You are not being selfish in wanting another one but you do have to take his feelings into consideration as well. Can you talk to him and see why he doesn't want another baby? He might be worried about something? Money, size of house/car etc.

aw what an awful situation to be in
maybe wait a while before mentioning it agan
your dd is still only little, hopefully he'll come round to the idea

His reasons are: - money, childcare would be very expensive and he feels we could do more for DD if it was just the 3 of us. He thinks the house is too small and he thinks he's too old (41 at the moe - I'm 37).

were in same situation but to be honest i cant force him if he doesnt want more i have to respect that as he has to respect i do want more but neither one of us should force the other to do what we dont want to i dont want to not have more but i dont want him to be forced to want more if i feel that strong then i would have to leave but is it worth breaking up my family when my ds gets all the attention were happy other than me wanting more children but to be honest im not focusing on more children now the longing is always there but im going to do a course to better myself my ds is off to school, sept

and maybe in a few years we may have more but for now i'll be thankful for what i have and not concentrate on having another child

the first year is always the hardest so maybe dont mention it for a little while as both parents are affected in that first year and he may have found it tough and not want to think of ahving a new born again just yet

Glad to hear I'm not the only one! Just wish I had time on my side.