Ok teach me how to not be a commitment phobe please

[Mamazon]

I love Dp, very much indeed.

We've been together for about 6 months now but have known each other as friends for longer.

he wants me to meet his parents but i just opanic and refuse. i have met his children but the idea of spending time with them terrifies me.

Its not that i don;t want to, I do. i desperatly want things to move forward iyswim. but im just totally freaked out by it all.

come give me a slap and tell me why im so bloody immature about this stuff.

i wish i knew the answer.. your post could be written by the bloke i am seeing atm

Big slap down the line

Seriously, what is it you're scared of?

i dont know.
if he asked me to marry him i'd say yes, i would quite happily have his children (but obviously being sensible i wont...despite being stupidly broody)
i can't even imagine him not being in my life.

I don't know what it is. deep down i want to be more involved with his kids and to have a good relationship with them, and i want to meet his parents as they are incredibly important to him.

i dunno. maybe im just scared they wont likeme or something

mamazon i see where you're coming from exactly
it just seems all hugely serious to the point of no return iyswim doesn't it
are you nervous in case they disapprove of you?

I guess it's what we all go through when we meet 'the one' - they are so important to us that everything else becomes equally as important, and it can be easy to feel that by not doing anything (like meeting his parents or children) you then don't run the risk of ruining anything. Or perhaps that was just me?!

Take it slowly would be my advice - 6 months is a short time, even though you've known him for a long time. Now that you've met his kids, just spend time enjoying their company and then think about meeting his parents informally. Just be easy on yourself - I bet they'll all love you!

blonde i think you'v hit it on the head.
im worrid that they wont like me. althoughi don't think he'd finish with me it's hardly going to make things easier in thelong run is it.

the kids thing is a bit of me just being a bit self concious. his ex is hugely wealthy and the children are a bit "posh" for want of a better word. they are both the same age as my two but they are much smarter and so much better behaved. I can just imagine them going back and telling mummy all about daddy's new girlfriends heathen children.

yep.
you have alot invested in this
but do keep reminding yourself that an ex is an ex for a reason
dc are always a prob.regardless tho
and yes i would feel press.too tbh
it's a huge step meeting the parents
do feel for you here