What can I say to best friend...

[robin3]

Had a bit of a wierd weekend.

My BF was in pieces and says she and DH haven't had sex since the birth of their 2 year old baby and previous to that it was very very infrequent. Apparently he just isn't up for it...sorry for pun.

She's been to counselling on her own but he wasn't interested and he seems to refuse to accept that there is a problem. He has assured her he isn't gay and says he thinks about initiating it a few times but hasn't. Says he loves her but so far hasn't offered any other explanation.

Anyway....after enduring this for years she obviously decided she'd had enough and had to tell someone...wants to know what to do given the fact that she doesn't want to part her baby from his dad.

Am at a total loss to know what to advise...never heard of such a situation before. Advice please mnetters.

From what your saying she has tried most things and is sick of getting knocked back (I would too) I think she really has to force the issue into the open. What has she got to lose? if it's so bad that she would feel it is charity on his part then if it's not discussed and they get down to it - she'll feel rotten afterwards anyway.

If it were me I'd have to go and find it else where!

Do you mean start afresh and split the family or maintain the family life but have an affair?

He is being unfair on her by not giving her an explanation for his behaviour.

She needs to ask him why he cannot bring himself to talk to her about this problem.