Why come back into my life - very confused

[confusedbee]

My ex DP of whom I have been split from for a year ago and whom broke my heart and not spoke to for 6 months, told me a couple of weeks ago that he still loves me and misses me and then yesterday turned up at my house just to see if I was ok and fancy going for a drink some time.

I really dont know what to think, I have agreed to go for a drink with him.

But I am all rather confused as I had just started to get over him and he has appeared in to my, what do I say when we go for a drink?

Realy depends why he left you?

Generally, I would say that he's down on his luck (just been dumped perhaps) and needs reassuarance and ego stroking and knows where to get it (you).

Once he has had his needs fufilled he will bugger off again.

Tell him to fook off.

do you have any dcs together?

What lilacclaire said.

He's got nothing better to do. Sorry x

Well he finished with me as he said that I made him parniod and that he found it hard when other men looked at me.
And that he couldnt cope with his feelings of jealousy. But other than that we had a fantastic relationship we got on great etc.

Yesterday when he came round he never tried any thing on even though he knew my children where out.

I just cant seem to understand why come back.

No children together.

We was had been together for 4 years before we split up.

Has he explained how he has overcome the problems that caused the split?

I havent said anything as yet as I am in a bit of a shock stage.

Was thinking of asking these questions when we go for a drink, I am just finding it all very odd.

yes poss.he is just on the rebound that's very true.
did you both maintain contact aft.the split?
he may be genuine here and may actually have had time to sort thru his feelings and actually deal with the problems that he had all of which bode well if he is sincere and actually does wish to give things another try.
it depends very much of course on your feelings here as well.
i would say it is very much down to actions here as opposed to words
tread cautiously and take things at your own pace
if you need more time to think things thru then delay having a drink for a bit longer
if anything it wont do him any harm in having to wait for you and without wishing to suggest game playing here he will prob.go to even greater lengths to let you know that you should give him a second chance.
and for you to decide if he's worth it.

it's not so much a question as to why he has come back- could be a million and one reasons, but whether you ever want him back?

From what you have said- him being the jealous type and possessive- then I wouldn't want a man like that anyway. But if you loved him and feel you could give him a 2nd chance, then take your time to think about it.

I don't think you need to say too much if you go for a drink- he's the one who asked you and he's the one who needs to explain himself, surely?

He said you made him paranoid? Huge red warning flags going up there!!!! (He was paranoid, but would rather blame you than admit it's his problem and get over it).

Personally wouldn't be going anywhere near him.

Agree with those who say it absolutely reeks of someone who's recently had a bad time and is looking for an ego boost.

He didn't speak to you for six months and then is suddenly concerned for your well being?

Not sure why you're surprised that he didn't 'try anything on'? You don't get to dump someone then pick up exactly where you left off six months later--at least he's doing something right!