Sex question - help!

[veryembarrassedmummy]

A while back I posted about being almost non-orgasmic, and girls, I took your good advice about how to please myself and hey presto!
Now, the problem is- can I do the same with DH?
To give a bit of background, our relationship has been stormy for years- I am the one who is always going to walk out for all kinds of reasons- and our sex life has been almost non-existant for years. However, I am now making the effort and we are giving our relationship one last shot. We have started having sex again, but I feel quite embarrassed when I get excited! DH is very sweet and patient but I have not yet been able to "let myelf go" in the same way that I can when I have solo sex! I also find myslef getting a bit annoyed that he can't find the spot as easily as I can, or do just quite the right things at the right time, although I guide hm! I am talking clitoral orgasms here, ladies.
Will it come in time ( sorry) and how do you get over the "I bet my face looks funny now" attitude.

hahaha..yes it will get better!..it's all about practice practice practice!...don't even think about the face...concentrate on the pleasure...let yourself enjoy the moment

Really not being flippant - can't you just do it in the dark and then you can't worry about your face?
Would wine not help with the getting irritated he can't find it stuff - you'd be more relaxed?

have a few drinks to losen up first that will help.

sorry excuse the pun

Why don't you direct his head under the covers between your legs. That way he can't even see your face!

Don't worry about the face bit! Who cares, my BF tells me to look at him when I come, he loves it and I don't care! He says he knows when I have come because my lips twitch and my eyes roll... ha ha ha. Must look awful! I love seeing his face too when he gets there, he looks absolutely amazing. It's all part of it. Just relax and stop thinking about how what and when and you'll enjoy it even more. It's not a performance.

ohhhh direct him just quietly take his hand in yours and show him what you like.. and a quick tip add some lube to the play

don't worry about what you look like letting go.. men do seem to rather like it

Men LOVE it when you orgasm when having sex with them! Don't worry about your facial expression (have you looked at his when he climaxes? Men always look far more stupid ). He will be far more turned on if you are so let yourself go and enjoy it!

Have fun ;)

Practice. Definitely practice. He will get better with time, and if you give him the chance and some sensitive direction.

And your face won't look funny - it'll be a turn-on to him, if he's watching (as opposed to down there). Imagine him loving how you look, enjoying yourself, and feel all goddess-like and even more turned on because of it!

I love sex faces!

Its the best bit. I once pulled a daft face at DP when he was reaching his peak, he had his eyes closed at the time, but opened them as I was being childish and put him off his stride!

Concentrte on the 'here & now' not the end finale and it'll just happen. Direct him to where you want him to be, he won't take offence,

Its about letting go, the last thing on your OHs mind is 'look at her funny face'!