I am so relieved!!

[Alibabaandthe40bunnies]

DS is our first baby - he's just coming up to 9 months old. DH and I have hardly had sex since he was born, infact up to now we'd had two abortive attempts that for some reason I found painful - I had a c-section.

Anyway, I'd started to avoid intimacy with him - going to bed at different times etc etc and even a few times telling him was snoring when he wasn't so that I would have an excuse to send him to the spare room because I didn't want him in bed with me . I was getting really worried that I didn't fancy him anymore and that it would be slippery slope into not loving him anymore - plus we want another baby before too long.

We've just had the most amazing sex! I am so happy, and so relieved that I don't have to lie to him and to myself anymore.

Just wanted to share incase anyone else is in the same boat - things can get better again .

that's a wonderful story, thanks for sharing!

Well done and congratulations.

I have had three c-sections and found sex very painful afterwards. Like a layer of skin was missing. Presume it's hormonal.

(When the GP gave me a smear test at my 6-week check I nearly went through the roof and he was quite bemused at the cause. But I have had it every time.)

Ballonslayer that's interesting. I am BFing but DS has cut down on milk and increased his solids quite a bit. I did wonder if my increased enthusiasm and, ahem, lubrication, was to do with my hormones thinking about returning to normal.

ha-ha well I got my first period each time when the baby was about 8 months old (there is 17.5 months between DS1 and DD) so I would guess your cycle is preparing to come back.

The painful sex after they were born probably only lasted 3 months? I have from time to time read things about the menopause which says that menopausal women experience thinning of the mucous membrane "down there" which can make sex painful. It makes me wonder whether that is the sort of thing that has happened to me postnatally. Yet some people can have a natural birth with loads of stitches and be bouncing around within weeks.

It's not something one can moan about really given the horror stories you read about the damage people suffer (the AIBU thread on tears nearly had me in tears last night, oh I mean tears as in rips the first time and as in crying the second.)