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Proposing on big day

11 replies

BayCityRocker · 10/04/2009 09:24

I hope you dont mind me asking for advice on here as I really need a womans opinion on this before I do it. Im thinking of proposing to my girlfriend and she goes away to america for 2 weeks on the 23rd April. I was thinking of proposing to her the night before on the 22nd as Im not going with her.
Trouble is if she says no it may spoil her holiday as she will dwell on it for 2 weeks and from a selfish side, I will dwell on it for 2 weeks before she gets backs too. But if she says yes, it will give her something nice to go away with.
Its a big risk, I don't want to risk spoiling her holiday but Im pretty sure she will say yes but is it worth the risk? should I just wait until she gets back or is it more romantic to do it before she goes?

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Twims · 10/04/2009 09:28

Why would she say No?

Go for it.

bruxeur · 10/04/2009 09:29

Why on earth would you want to be away from her for 2 weeks ESPECIALLY if she said yes?

How bizarre.

JessJess3908 · 10/04/2009 09:30

do it the day she gets back - it will be a huge climax after missing each other for the 2 weeks.

Doing it before she goes looks like you're worried she might be unfaithful and are desperately trying to tie her down.

Also, when you've just got engaged you want to be together and make lots of plans. If she says yes, she'll be really frustrated that now she has to go away on holiday and can't get stuck in with the planning.

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BayCityRocker · 10/04/2009 09:30

I dont want to be away from her but I cant stop her from going on holiday! that would be bizare

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warthog · 10/04/2009 09:31

i would do it when she gets back.

if she says yes (and i'm sure she will!) you won't want to be apart for 2 weeks, you'll want to be chatting and telling friends, mulling over wedding ideas etc.

when she comes back from hols, she'll be in the post-holiday blues, and this is the perfect cheer-me-up!

but give it a few days for her to recover from jetlag. how about may bank holiday weekend?

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BayCityRocker · 10/04/2009 09:31

sorry that was to bruxeur

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MarlaSinger · 10/04/2009 09:32

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shonaspurtle · 10/04/2009 09:33

If it was me I would want you to wait till I got back.

When dh & I got engaged I wanted to tell my mum and friends and celebrate, and most of all be with dh.

PlumpChocEggyBaps · 10/04/2009 09:34

I think I'd leave it till she gets back. She might be feeling a bit stressy with packing issues or something the day before.... (unless that's just me).

And if she does say yes, you'll want to enjoy the few days afterwards sharing the news, maybe? She might want to tell all her friends, family etc, perhaps?

Thefearlessfreak · 10/04/2009 09:40

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solidgoldshaggingbunnies · 10/04/2009 09:49

Yes, it will be lovely to come back to, rather than to have to go on holiday and be away from you for a fortnight. Depending on the sort of people you are and the sort of relationship you have, you could meet her at the airport on her return with a big poster saying 'WIll You Marry Me?'
(OK some people would find this unbelievably cheesy, but I know someone who did the exact thing and it was very well-recieved, they have now been married for about 15 years).

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