No sex life but we want another baby!

[Mishee]

We have a serious lack of sex life, like only once since we had DS who is now 3! DH just not interested. DH is overweight, high blood pressure and likes a drink which could all contribute to his lack of sex drive. He also has a fear of failing erections, which is of course then a viscious circle.
To make DS, DH took some tablets we saw advertised called Arginmax. These helped out with the mechanics, although he was still never in the mood (mainly too tired) so I had to literally take advantage of him! Believe it or not, we do have a healthy marriage apart from the lack of sex, which we have both got used to. However, I'm now getting on a bit and so it's a case of now or never. He brought up having another baby, which we would both like and he has started taking the Arginmax again, but this time it's having no effect (and he's still genuinly too tired). Can anyone recommend any lotions or potions they've used which worked? Am tempted to give up and be happy with the one child I've got, but would love hime to have a sibling. Advice please.

mishee - I genuinely believe your husband is not well. Things like diabetes can be a factor in weight gain and erectile dysfunction and a constant feeling of tiredness. Hypothyroidism can also lead to the same problems as can many other health issues. There is also a psychological side too of course which feeds of the repeated erectile failures but if his health is poor a bottle of Viagra pills or similar substance is not the answer. He really needs to go and see a GP - he is burying his head.

You have a good marriage (but I am sad for you and your DH it is not what it could be) so I do not see relationship factors as the reason. This is really a health problem.

Please do keep trying to persuade him for his and your future hapiness. I wish you and DH well.

Thanks for that, I am wondering about diabetes and I might be able to get him to the dr on that concern, as my mum has just been diagnosed & I could point out the similarities there (apart from the obvious!). Thanks for all the positive responses everyone. Will keep you updated if anything of note happens.

i think you can have free quick diabetes testing at Lloyds chemists - might be easier to get dh to do than going to the GP?

Good thinking, will ask. Thanks.

i would get prostate checked my dh had lack sex drive tired and errection probs has p cancer get it checked u dont have to be old.

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