Hi I would like to know if I was out of order !

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Namechanged here...DH and I have been having a rocky patch for a while...a lots of pressure, moving house, 2 demanding dds etc...Our sex life could be alright if it was for him !! Tuesday felt really horny and he was tired, so I ermm teased him a bit and then we had sex, good session actually ! Second night same, but he told me I'm fed up of you forcing me having sex, I was tired, I was in sleeping mode...and you wouldn't live "it" as his ermm popol alone.. I was hurt, for fuck sake he's only 34 years old..hardly a middle aged man no ??? How would you feel ?

the department of work and pensions????

or was it twdp? well it was someone anyway, i remember a thread about her being called a troll, and she started searching facebook for a certain MNER

What ?? Why all these means answers ?? I spoke to my dh and I apologize to him but he said come on dont exagerate, if I really didnt want to do it..nothing would have happened..I soud awful..that's it, without even knowing me...my writing is not that good because I'm not british..I'm not a troll I have been on Mumsnet since 2004, on childbirth and pregnancy section...I'm so upset, fair enought I have asked for your opinions but being called weird, awful ??

Erections can be involuntary.

He clearly didn't want to have sex with you.

Can I ask what a troll is and what on earth has happened before on mumsnet?

I feel awful..you make me feel like a bully. We are having a tought time, just wanted to get closer DH after a tought day..was not mean to him, not rought...that's all a bit harsh..

You've admitted you are both having tough time and whilst your response to that is to want to get closer to your husband, his response might be very different ie he is stressed/tired maybe?.

Again, I refer you to my previous post and suggest that you actually try and talk more ...

Fiddling with his bits in the manner you've described is clearly not the answer.

Its all about you though, you have to think what he wants or doesnt want!
If you feel bullied because people dont agree with you then dont come on MN it can be scathing!

Just try and treat you dh with a bit more respect that you too should expect. And like me and others have said if you need to then do it yourself

I was feeling guilty before this thread...we spoke to each other..I apologize..and never will be in that situation with my husband of 6 years...As I said I was willing to take all your opinions on board..but being called weird, not very nice or awful as if I was like everytime I share a bed with my husband ? Thank anyway to the ladies who didnt exagerate !

Ok, you've apologized and you're not going to do it again - that's all you need to do. It was unreasonable to pester him for sex when he didn't want it, but now you know not to do it again there is no nbeed to worry. (And I think some other people were a bit harsh on you as well).

yeah me too - dont pester him like that - you wouldnt like it yourself but you didnt rape or abuse him - thats too much. He didnt want it, he said no end of story.

Thanks again

Hi! Lots of people are having a tough time at the moment, but they have no time to come to MN to dish out advice to other people. This site is full of very privileged ladies, who do not have to work all hours god sends just to feed their families. Just stay cool, do not loose your temper and remember in the past people had to put up with very bad circumstances and they pulled through.

Thanks Salla, I could cry ...I'm having a tought time at the moment, try to keep my head above the water, tought about killing myself few times this week, I'm not even in my home country...do my best honestly but I was wrong with my action and wrong to think that posting will make things better, I cant believe some of the comments..I have been feeling down since then