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My fault or not

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JodieO · 09/04/2009 04:30

Cba to namechange. Split with exh last year, been together 10 years and have 3 children.

Basically I think he was abusive to me but he denies that completely. I'm so split in what I think, one minute I know he did the next I think maybe he was right.

He shouted a lot, complained about anything the minute he walked in the door (I was a sahm), put me down, insulted me, called me names etc etc . There was also violence. He put his hands round my throat one night, I've had many bruises from being pulled and dragged etc.

He never admitted he did anything, said it was all bullshit and I don't even know anymore, maybe it was just me. I hate feeling like this, I know how I felt at the time but when someone says so much they didnt' so anything it makes you wonder even though you know deep down they did.

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NotQuiteCockney · 09/04/2009 07:48

I don't see how this could be your fault, tbh. Violence is not ok.

Can you avoid talking about all this with him? His POV is corrosive and wrong, and the last thing you need.

HappyWoman · 09/04/2009 08:37

try not to let him still get to you. He will never admit it to you - and really does it matter now? As long as you know you did the right thing that is all that matters.

daisybaby · 09/04/2009 09:27

His denial of things that happened in the past is probably a form of continued abuse towards you.

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