Quick sex question..

[howtotellmum]

that got you all loooking

seriously, if you imagine your DH with another woman and it doesn't make you feel jealous , is it time to end it?
(Solidgold neednot reply!)

How does it make you feel?

(horny might be ok)

completely detached...

not angry, or jealous etc etc

(BTW I am having counselling to try to make a decision and she has asked me this too...but they enver say anything back!)

depends on many many other aspects.

I think of my Dp with another woman and get a bit turned on.

If I imagine my DH with another woman, I feel detached too - because I know it'd never happen. If I thought that there was a possibility, I would hate it. But I'm totally secure in the knowledge that it's just silly fiction in my head & I find it impossible to get an emotional reaction from that.

It depends why you feel detached...

I am using the image to see if it makes me feel jealous- and it doesn't.

Hmmm, I don't necessarily think it is a problem especially if you have been together a long time.

When you have been in a relationship a long time, I think you lose the strength of emotion in many areas, you don't feel jealous, don't really feel angry etc.

I think there must be other signs of you thinking you want to end it....aren't there???

I feeldetached because I don't think I really love im any more- only as a friend.

My exdp did screw around and I can actually enjoy the fantasy of imagining it now that it is a little in the past. That makes me quite odd I think.

My XH had sex with a prostitute, and my only thought was, 'You paid £200? Where the fuck did you get that money from with our budget?'

Had it been someone he actually liked or had any emotional relationship with, maybe I would have felt differently. But I think the relationship was so far down the toilet at that point it wouldn't have mattered.

Imagining isn't reality. You don't know how you'd really feel if it happened.

In RL I'd be shattered but as a fantasy it's ok. Don't think I'd tell him though.

hmm...I guess not necessarily...does it make you think "thank god, maybe he'll leave ME alone now"?

i would be jealous

angry

no - livid

Been cheated on not nice and so jealous

I would feel sick with jealousy, even at the thought of it. Think I might have some ishoos tho

Strangely I've been thinking about this, as I'm reading the "19th Wife" which about the Mormons and Polygamy. (Can you imagine your DH bringing home a new wife whenever he felt like it and taking turns to spend the night with you?) Another thread there I think....

I would definitely feel jealous imagining DH with another woman. I don't feel detached about it - maybe that's a sign that i'm not 100% convinced he wouldn't.....?

I would feel distraught, jealous

It makes me feel jealous - and horny!