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theft by loved one

14 replies

debnita · 06/04/2009 21:20

i need some advice on what to do next i have been with my partner 4yrs and last Friday he took my diamond ring and pawned it with out my say so or knowledge. i went to my jewelry box in the evening to put it on and it had gone Ive asked him if he has taken it and he has denied all knowledge on Saturday i went down his wallet and there was the pawn ticket so i asked him again if he had taken it he denied it again. i went to take the ticket to confront him with it and it has now gone i would be very grateful if someone could give me some advice on what to do next has Ive never had to deal with anything like this

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sickofthisrain · 06/04/2009 21:23

Could he have run up some debt which he hasn't yet told you about? Sounds a fairly desperate action to me, as you're bound to find out. Has he ever done anything odd like this before?

Yurtgirl · 06/04/2009 21:26

Debita that is a terrible thing to do?

Without meaning to upset you, is it possible he has a gambling problem? Or as sickofthis says a debt he hasnt mentioned

I would have serious words with him if this was my DP

HolyGuacamole · 06/04/2009 21:31

OMG! Not that it makes any difference, but was it an engagement ring from him?

Debt, drugs, drink, gambling?

HecAteTheEasterBunny · 06/04/2009 21:33

Tell him that you are going to inform the police, because clearly you have somehow been broken into?

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debnita · 07/04/2009 02:23

holyguacamole yes it is my engagment ring and yes he spent the money on drink he is making me feel as if its my fault and ive lost it but i know what hes done i just cant get my head round it he has never done anything like this before with me. i cant bring my self to talk to him or be in the same room as him at the moment

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BitOfFunnyBunny · 07/04/2009 02:27

This is a sacking offense- get the ticket, arrange to buy it back and drop him like a stone my love

JodieO · 07/04/2009 02:39

I wouldn't waste money buying it back, you know what you should do.

savoycabbage · 07/04/2009 03:48

How horrible for you. I agree that you shouldn't bother buying it back. I think if he had admitted he had done it and you could have 'worked through' it in a Dr Phil styleee it might have been different. But not only has be taken your ring but hi had denied it and is trying to make you think you lost it! You have to end it I think.

HecAteTheEasterBunny · 07/04/2009 08:17

He is still denying that he has taken it? OK. If you know the pawn shop, go down there. Try to spot the ring. If you see it, then you can go and say "I have seen my ring in X pawn shop. Obviously someone has stolen it so I have phoned the police who will be able to go and get the info from the pawnbroker."

Truly, this man has STOLEN from you! Not only that, but he is lying about it when you confront him, he doesn't even have the balls to put his hands up and admit it. AND he's trying to turn it round on you?!

This is surely not a man you want to be with?

HolyGuacamole · 07/04/2009 10:55

Wow, what a loser and what a low thing to do. He has no right to pawn your things. Is there a chance he might try to buy it back and slip it somewhere as if you misplaced it? (thereby further messing with your head)

I can understand people pawning stuff to pay the bills or put food on the table, but not to buy drink

prettyfly1 · 07/04/2009 12:44

Christ almighty - to be quite frank with you if he keeps denying it, then tell him you think its been stolen and call the police. He will fess up quick enough. And he is a loser and you do need to leave.

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debnita · 12/04/2009 01:44

just to give you all an up date i now have pawn ticket which ive handed to police they have knicked him for theft will keep up dated whats going to happen next .............. i would just like to thank everyone for there help

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SpaceTrain · 14/04/2009 11:58

Good on you! How did he react? Is he still denying it?

GypsyMoth · 14/04/2009 12:03

Oh well done!!! I had an ex who stole. You just don't know where it will end. He could steal from your family or friends next, you just never know.

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