Ex husband pestering and being generally lewd

[lilygreen]

As the title suggests my estranged husband (split up over a year ago) still seems to think he can 'paw' at me, make lewd comments, that type of thing.

I lost my temper a few weeks ago and he stopped, he has now started again "it's not my fault if I find you attractive" he says. So attractive that he found a new girlfriend very shortly after leaving(not with her now).
He does this when he visits/collects our two children. I don't even fancy him (though surely that's beside the point. I find his behaviour insulting that he thinks I'd be 'up for it'.

I'm not sure what to do now that I've already threatened him. I've made it quite clear. I promise I've done nothing to encourage him.

Just do the handover on the doorstep? My ex hasn't been in my house since the day we split up.

How horrible. Dunno what to suggest apart from an icy cold 'get your hands off me right this second and NEVER think of doing that again'.

that must be infuriating. Is he like that with any woman he finds attractive?

IS there anyone else who could handle the handovers for you so that you don't need to see him and keep all contact to phone/email?

Or could you drop them off and stay in the car?

Yes, or make sure you have someone there when he comes around. Cheeky git, why on earth does he think it is ok to paw a woman?!

I'm afraid I don't have anybody to do the handovers, and we do occasionally have to meet to discuss the children , but I suppose I could try to think of a way around it. He comes to look after them if I need extra help with appointments etc
I emailed him a warning a couple of weeks ago, but when he think s I've calmed down he seems to try again. I'm actually pretending I have "women's problems at the moment just so he leaves me alone.
I don't know if he is like that with other women he finds attractive. He's obviously changed since he left.

what a dick

just tell him to "fuck right off" next time he does it, even if you have to hiss under your breath so the kids don't hear

perhaps he thinks you are still his "property" to do what he likes with

No woman should have to put up with that.
Options:

• get family/friends to be present at handover, and in front of them you tell him never to touch you or make a pass at you again. He is being a sex-pest. Be scornful. Never allowed in your home again.
• get family to tell him if you can't
• do door step-handovers and shout very loudly/set off rape alarm

-talk to the police

Thats disgusting behaviour, and dont be fooled, hes trying to humiliate you with the pawing and lewdness , you can be quite certain he is not behaving that way towards other women.
He knows you dont like it because youve told him quite clearly, yet he still does it? Thas not normal behaviour.

Personally i would treat him like any other man who behaved like that and refuse to have him in the house.
If this was work it would be sexual harrasment and you wouldnt stand for it, and you wouldnt be expected to.

I would email and threaten that if the sexual harasment does not stop he will be collecting the children from a contact centre and communicating through your soliciter.