Why donesn't he like me going out with my friends?

[elsmummy]

Ive been with my partner for 15 years (since I was 19)We have 3 young children together.
It's not a very good relashionship and I am on the verge of leaving.
Things tick over ok the problems always arise when I want to have a night out with my friends.
In the 15 years we have been together I have been 100% faithful, and he absolutely knows that, so why does he have such a problem with me going out.
He makes me feel really guilty, saying I shouldn't be going out clubbing or to bars and shouln't be drinking as I have young children.
Could it be because some of the friends I go out with are single?, but even if they are on-the-pull it donesn't mean that I am, and that is not why I go out, it's to let my hair down for an evening.
When I get asked out by friends (which isn't very often) I get butterflies in my stomach, which always results in me telling him at the last moment, which really anoys him. He has been violent to me usually as a result of me going / wanting to go out. My other friends partners seem to be totally fine with their wives / partners going out.
Should I just accept this or is it time to call it a day?

the violence is a reason to call it a day

Call it a day - he is violent to you and controls you by ruining or not letting you go out with your friends.

I go out with my friends all the time - i have young children - whats that got to do with anything.

Leave asap

for him its about his insecurities that you will find someone better than him. So he makes you feel guilty for going out and leaving the kids. His violence is about his problems.

He is controlling you.

he is violent to you.

This enviroment is damaging for the children to grow up in.

None of his behaviour is unacceptable. Its basically emotional and physical abuse. Domestic violence is not ok ever.

Seek some sort of support this relationship may survive but only if he sees the problem and agrees to help and long term change.

Call it a day, this behavior is unacceptable.

You need to get away from him. He is an inadequate tosspot who thinks you are a piece of property, not a person. He is going to get progressively more violent until he kills you, unless you get away. Violent wankers who are violent out of this kind of sense of ownership nearly always escalate to killing.