If you don't have kids together, are you in contact/friendly with your ex-husband?

[YanknbeforetheCockcrows]

My divorce was final exactly one year ago today. When we separated, we intended to remain friendly, but this quickly went to hell over the various money issues and house sale.

In fact, our last physical interaction was probably that horrible day he ripped up house sale documents and threw them at me, then tried to push me out of the house with my boxed wedding dress. For my part, I kicked him in the shin during the scuffle and screamed 'C*NT!' at him several times. I am NOT proud of this.

Because of the date, I got thinking about it, and just wondered if anyone has later salvaged a friendship after a bitter divorce?

I definitely do not regret divorcing. I am remarried and expecting a child, something that was never going to happen with XH. I was always at the bottom of his priority list, and he unilaterally declared an end to our sex life. My friends say I was miserable with him and am so much happier now.

So why do I feel a bit sad today?

I am.. and it can be really hard.. but 10 years on we can managea civil convosation.. mind we only ever talk about the ds's. Anything that might come across as fire igniting.. we e-mail. make you think before you say and respond.

I wouldn't say friendship.. but we have a sort of understanding.

[ooops] mis read the title ... duh... we have ds's together..

urmm.. if we didn't have them... I wouldn't be anywhere near the bloke LOL

I'm afraid if it weren't for dd he wouldn't see me for dust.I fantasise about never having to see him again.
I despise the man - unhealthy I know. We are civil for dd's sake, however.

I don't know if I'm unusual but ex husband and I are still in contact and good friends. In fact, I think its because we didn't have dc together that made it possible for us to remain friends.

We split for many reasons (grew apart, he had an affair.... blah) but tbh had we had children I know I'd have felt v different .. yes he hurt me but by god if he'd hurt my children by for example having an affair, my attitude would be v v different.

I don't think its unusual for you to feel sad today. I feel 'odd' on the date that would have been our wedding anniversary - as I said, we're mates and I don't regret divorcing him (he has since re married) so why on earth do I feel 'odd'? I simply think that you don't always have to explain why you feel something ... its just how it is.

At least you're happy now and have someone who cares and a dc to look fwd to.

Big hugs anyway

Haven't seen mine for years, but we were reasonably amicable. His new GF on the other hand....well she was about 17, and on one occasion bumped into me in a pub toilet and threatened to beat me up! I told her to come back when she was actually old enough to be drinking there.

I wonder if they worked out? She was still at school and ex h was mid 20s. I went round the old once to sort out some paperwork and she was in the kitchen doing the washing up. I wanted to shake her and tell her to run for the hills.