Advice for my friend about IL's

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My lovely friend has not discovered MN yet (I don't think) and is very tense. Her FIL died over a year ago and her MIL and BIL inssit on going to visit her, her DH and their DC every chance they can. She doesn't begrudge them staying but it's the length of the trip that is getting her down
They stayed for 2 weeks over christmas and are planning another fortnight over easter.

A text I had recently read
'I have tried everything possible to put them off staying for so long but they just don't notice. I said to DH after the last time that it is too long for anyone to stay but he still doesn't get it. Plus they never want to do anything without me. I feel pressurised or a guilt trip is laid on me to go. And something disastorous always happens. I just want to spend some time relaxing over the holidays instead of feeling constantly on edge. I work friggin hard so deserve a frigging break. I'm dreading summer as MIL has 9 weeks off '

Any advice?

Oh my god. The poor womanI couldn't put up with ANYONE visiting for a week never mind a fortnight. I would go bonkers. She has to get her husband to tell them straight that its too much for her. There's no point pussyfooting round it if they are that insensitive.

Well, two weeks isn't that long if they live a long way. I say that as my mil stayed 2.5 months in my flat last year. Basically came on an open ticket. Plus fil has just died so she's even more likely to just stay and stay!

However, her dh needs to sort this out, not hher. About time they planned some holiday's oof their own over Easter and Christmas.

They do live a way away, it takes a short flight for them to get there. And I think (reading between lines) her MIL is abit jealous of the fact that her family live nearby and help care for DC day to day.
I can see both sides, but, she is my friend, not her DH or her MIL, so I am n her side

I will just have to keep telling her to tell her DH, he does seema bit blinkered to how they are stressing her out.

If her husband doesnt get it, and possibly never will, and she wants to keep the peace, then its time for some new tactics!

Plan and book several weekends away, tickets to see things, stuff like that. Then invite them for one week only near the begining of the holidays, make sure you have somewhere to be either end of the week. Plan also the next visit (in a holiday cottage maybe so there is a clear end to the holiday) so they have something to look forward to.

She will still see them, but will have regained control and feel miles better.