New partner scared me today, am i over-reacting?

[WorriedConcerned]

I split with my ex 6 years ago. He was bad tempered, violent and abusive so it took me those 6 years to truely feel like I could be in a relationship again.

I have now been seeing a man for the past month or so. He has always been very placid, calm and kind and this is one of things I like about him.

Today however he lost his temper and it really scared me

A car pulled out in front of us. It wasn't directly in front of us, DP could have easily avoided it if he'd just slowed down. However, instead of slowing down, he actually sped up towards the car, shouted "Look at that fucking idiot" and started hammering his horn at the driver.

I'm now worried that he could be showing early signs of having a violent temper. I know my view is probably warped from the past however so am I over-reacting?

I agree with those that say to speak to him about it and gauge his reaction from that.

Weirdly, I've just asked about this on the Emotional Abuse thread, as H has recently started with some EA behaviour (known him over 10 yrs before it properly started) but has always been a really aggressive driver (thinks it's acceptable to drive at 60mph along a single track windy country lane for example). Virtually every time we go out we have a road rage incident of some kind or end up being hooted at and it makes my gut absolutely wrench. I've started insisting I drive now as I just can't bear the stress.

Definitely see this as a red flag. I'd make it clear how uncomfortable it made you, and then run a mile if it happens again.