Keira Knightly, Women's Aid and our new refuge

[mrspnut]

I wasn't quite sure where to place this but relationships seemed as good a plce as any.

I don't know if people have seen it but Women's aid have brought out a new advert featuring Keira Knightly highlighting the problems that women suffer every day in abusive relationships.

The film is www.cutmovie.co.uk/index_2.html

I do work for a women's aid, unfortunately all women's aid organisations are separate and have to fundraise by themselves so I am asking you lovely ladies to support Women's aid by buying a brick in the new refuge we are building in Lincoln.

This will be a refuge that has 2 rooms which are adapted for use by women with a physical disability making us one of the few refuges in the country with this capability.

If you wish to buy a brick then our just giving site is www.justgiving.com/buybricks or you can contact us via email on [email protected]

I saw the ad earlier on, it's very good. Hard hitting and I think she's got it just about right.

The charities noticeboard is here and you may want to pop a thread in your mumsnet local site as well.

well done, you do a fantastic job and you should be very bloody proud of how you help.

I shall just repost our website here and then post elsewhere www.justgiving.com/buybricks

Thanks Squonk.

Do Womens Aid acknowledge that DV is not a gender issue and that female-male DV occurs too? I think that research from the home office crime survey indicates the prevalance of male:female and female:male DV.

Are there any refuges for male victims of DV in the country and if so how many?

oh for heaven's sake yerblurt, do you have to be so chippy?

If you want a refuge for male victims of DV, go out and fundraise for it. That's what the founders of the women's refuges did and do.

I dunno, 2,000+ years of patriarchy in this country v. five minutes of the power gap between men and women narrowing slightly and men start bleating 'snot fair.

Did the picture of the leaders at the G20 not give you a clue about people with penises still being in charge?

They do acknowledge that female-male DV occurs and that DV is not about gender but about control.

The recent statistics quoted that showed that one in four women and one in six men had suffered domestic violence were based on single incidents of a criminal nature without regard to severity, context, frequency or overlapping pattern of abuse.

It also excluded sexual assault which is often a feature in abusive relationships and emotional abuse which is often the most destructive part.

I think there are about 100 places for men fleeing domestic violence across the country but male refuges are still being developed.

yerblurt, would you ask someone fundraising for abandoned dogs if they acknowledge that cats also get abandoned and interrogate the OP about cat refuges?

Tis a serious issue, DV, whether perpetrated by the male or by the female.

Why not do as edam says and do some fundraising for a refuge for men affected by DV. Twould be a better use of your time than haranguing people fundraising for refuges for women.

I love edam's post!

So do I.

Thank you!

Mrspnut, sorry for side-track, will buy a brick.

thank you mrspnut for an intelligent answer.

I just have an issue with the way DV is popularly expressed as a solely male on female issue. Until recently women's aid did this and used misleading stats now that they have been rumbled they do grudgingly admit the reality. 1 in 6 men - that's terrible as is all DV. Violence is wrong no matter what but I am very wary of DV being presented as a gender stereotype, which tends to happen whenever there is a mention of DV.

Would women's aid agree to fund male refuges too?

With edam all the way on this one. Not to downplay Female to male DV, but it's in poor taste to come on a thread that is talking about a wholly admirable cause and say 'Yeah, but what about...'

The clue is in the flippin' name Women's Aid. Unless you write irate letters to the NSPCC because they're focused on abuse against children, it's just ridiculous.

But I'm happy to post because it bumps this thread again so hopefully more people will see the ad and donate

Yerblurt you should really start another thread to discuss male DV if you wish to do so.

does the 'women's aid' not give you a clue??? I think it would have to be 'men's aid' or something

The whole point of womens aid is that it does what it says on the tin, and it does it very well, why would they want to defer from that?

shut up yerblurt and get over yourself. Go and build one - thats what women did. Honestly.

Count me in on this one.

You can count me in too.

Where abouts in Lincoln will you be building?

It's on the Ermine Estate Honking

Thank you everyone that's donated so far

Great idea, I have donated.

yerblurt I agree completely .

Some on this thread have been extremely uncivil towards you and your perfectly valid comments.

mrspnut - are you around at all - there is a thread with a woman suffering dv at the moment - really quite a harrowing story - is there any chance you could offer some advice - she needs to know if her partner will find out if she reports the incident - you are better placed then most of us to answer this - hope you dont mind me asking.

Lets keep this bumped! It doesn't look like enough bricks to build a bike shed on the justgiving site yet!

Done.

Thank you all the lovely ladies who have donated, bumped or even just given words of encouragement.

Prettyfly, sorry I wasn't around last night but I shall look for the thread now and see if I can offer anything extra.