Would this worry you?

[mypoorboy]

Ok I know this isn't a huge problem, and compared to what some people are going through I probably shouldn't even mention it but it is on my mind so........

My DH has been working away, it's the first time we've ever really been apart, and I don't miss him at all

That's not right is it?

We have a really good relationship (or so I thought) he is a really good man, he treats me like a princess and is a fantastic father

He is missing me loads, in fact he's finding it so hard to be away from me

So why don't I miss him? Is it a sign of a deeper problem?

Any ideas?

I think you're reading way too much into it. My DH works away from home a lot - and I seldom miss him. I quite enjoy the evenings on my own - a bit of time and space just for me. You're still your own person - time apart is quite healthy for a lot of couples. I'm sure you'll be delighted to have him home, and that's a more important indicator of how things are.

When my dh used to work away at the beginning of our relationship I used to cry and get all upset about it and beg him not to go,it was awful sometimes I would even book holidays from work just to accompany him .

Now I dont mind I can get on with stuff and I know hes ok,I think its a gradual acceptance.

I agree with Hassled, do you get excited to see him when he's due home?

I think you're probably over-thinking it. When is he due back? If he gets back and you're not happy to see him then that might be something to worry about. Otherwise, just relax.

I don't think it is that you aren't missing him but that you are enjoying some time to yourself.

I go out on one night a week and DH really misses me. It is out of the ordinary though as I go out about twice a year without him.

I miss him like mad at the moment but enjoy an odd evening to myself if he has a work do.

Don't worry.

Thank you

I feel a bit now that I'm over thinking things

It's great to have your input though so I don't fret too much!

I think I always just assumed I'd find it really hard, and I know he is, but I've been fine

He's been gone for three weeks and he's due back on sunday, although I can't actually say I am looking forward to seeing him, and I'm really not excited, in fact if he told me he had to stay another three weeks I'd be fine with that......it's just so strange

Maybe I'll feel differently when I actually see him though

Just to come from a different angel here..

If your DH was working away and didn't miss you, enjoyed being by himself, didn't look forward to coming home, I'd say you'd miss him like crazy!!!

Maybe it's just because your comfortable, you know there's someone out there who loves you deeply and misses you terribly - you've nothing to worry about and can enjoy your 'me time'?!

Whatever the case may be, it's nothing to worry yourself about, you love him, he loves you - happy days!!

my dp works away and i dont miss him when away either

its because im used to being alone doing housework etc i dont rely on him at all where as he relies on me when he comes home and his more than likely missing the comfort of his own home than me anyway

we do love each other but its breathing space for me i get to lounge around in my pj's get ds to bed and just do nothing and have time to myself

its not that im glad his away but its very rare i get time to really do nothing as i like things to be done for when he gets home i get to watch my programmes lol chick flicks lol

i do look forward to him coming home unless were not getting on lol

just enjoy the space and don't look to badly into it you seem to have a great relationship so doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about

I agree with TrillianEAstraEgg, do not read to much in it.

I think it is just a coping mechanism on your part. You couldn't spend the whole time moping around and feeling lonely.

Only a sign of a problem if you start looking forward to him going and not wanting him to come back.

My dh works away a lot (or did pre credit crunch) and I enjoy evenings to myself - watching what I want on TV, eating whatever I fancy, etc, but find it gets a bit dull after 4 days or so.

I would have said it was normal if you were looking forward to seeing him but that you're not does seem sad to me

My DP used to work away and I would really look forward to him coming home every Friday - if he had to stay an extra wk (which at times he had to do) I would be so disappointed.

Then again, some people are just happy on their own. My BF loves it when her DH is working away and they have a great relationship. She gets full autonomy with the kids and peace when their in bed.

Theres is a huge difference between your mindset when you know heis coming back, and if you knew you'd never see him again.

Imagine never seeing him again, would it bother you?
If so, no probs!!

Hello

Just thought I'd pop back to give you a quick update........

He's home and I'm thrilled

I really wasn't excited about seeing him but as soon as I did I just melted

and I may have been following him around like a love sick puppy

So thank you all, the wisdom of mumsnet was right once again

I don't think you should worry that you don't miss him desperately, People are just different in the way they deal with separation.