I have re-registered for this as frankly it is too embarassing to post in my normal name I am not a troll honestly!
The problem is that my (D)H seems to have forgotten that bathing / showering is important. He has stopped and despite subtle and then not so subtle suggestions and now even down right nags, he still has not washed He does use deoderant and despite the lack of soap, does not really smell, but he is seriously grubby now
I have tried explaining that it is completely unacceptable to me that he does not wash. He seems to think that he can use it as a bargaining point as he wants more sex. I have had sex with him since he stopped washing but not in recent weeks. I'm not feeling that well at the moment (am having blood tests to rule out a few things) and feel very unsupported at home.
He seems to think I am some kind of obsessive clean freak! I would be happy if he was bathing or showering once per week (obviously more than that would be fantastic, but I am being realistic here!). I don't think that is over the top at all, I suspect most would say it wouldn't be enough for them.
I know I could make it easy for him and run a bath for him etc but he is a grown man and can do this for himself. I have enough real children to be dealing with without having to treat him like one too. I am not willing to say I will definitely have sex if he bathes as the fact he will not do it unless bribed is a total turn-off for me. He should be washing for himself, not because I have bribed / nagged / bullied him into it.
How can I make him understand this?