do you reckon it's possible for an abusive bloke to change if he has therapy?

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I think I may be clutching at straws here, but I could do with some input.

I kicked ex P out at new year as he had been very very verbally abusive (never physical abuse), agressive and behaving like a kid for many months. He has admitted on several occassions he know's he has behaved appallingly. We have a 2yo DS and a 6mo DD, insecure jobs, he has massive debts, house is mine though, but he couldn't cope with day to day life .

He has had a couple of sessions with a counsellor as he knows he needs to learn to control his temper, but is there any hope for this sort of thing? Is it possible for a man to mellow out in time?

(I know it's late so i might not be back until tomorrow as DD has been a bit poorly).

you didn't go upstairs fast enough?!

Sounds like he's changed sod all, to me!

yes; but he needs psycho therapy to provide him with insight to his problems.

CBT is all very well, but your DH needs to understand WHY he behaves like he does.

Psychotherpay is superexpensive; a good place to start is to buy him 'Paretns, They F*ck You Up' buy Oliver James. Bit of a complicated read but very, very informative

Takes a long time, lot of work, he'll lots of support to motivate him

No, don't hold your breath..if you are like me you wouldn't look good in THAT shade of blue

lol

He would need lots of support..and a sounding board.
Thats not your responsibility or your job..why should you suffer 'in the meantime' ? while he is changing, if he does?

I'm not saying he couldn't. Just that you need to keep yourself safe and happy, and the DC's.

He is now his own problem, let him deal with it. Fine, tell him you appreciate that he has made the effort to seek counselling but state that it is for his benefit not yours, or he will carp on 'I changed myself for you, the least you can do is....'

Men..can't live with em and its illegal to kill em lol

Didn't go upstairs fast enough btw?

Sounds familiar