Overly jealous and possesive of friends,

[cupcake78]

What more can I say. I seem to have real trouble with two of my closest friends (they don't really know each other) getting on. One is female the other is male.

Its at the point were its unhealthy for me, I don't like myself when I'm like this and its affecting my friendships because I usually end up falling out with one or the other by the end of the night. I really want and need to stop.

I don't know where or how to start .

What is about them getting on that makes you unhappy? Do you feel pushed out? Worried that they will like each other more than they like you?

I think that jealousy pretty much always stems from low self esteem and negative thinking. But if you recognise it, that's half the battle. It's good that you want to tackle it, you just have to work out where it starts from, and you are on your way.

It's a bit of a cliche - but it's usually something that happened in your childhood that triggers these feeling as an adult. Can you think about anything that happened at school or at home that made you feel like this, back then?

Well the details of why are this.

She is beautiful, interesting loads of fun to be with and a social butterly - she is magnetic in every possible way. Yes i suppose I do feel left out abit. I think she knows this but not sure how he would take being told that.

When he is with me we talk on a 1-2-1 basis about anything and everything. He only does this when no one else is about. I miss that

So basically if she is with us I feel like i'm second best and I hate that! Yes at the moment self -esteem is a big big issue. Also it means me and him don't get a real chance to talk. I can't meet up with him very oftern, its usually only every 3-4mths because of family and work etc.

I know how this feels and I feel for you. The only thing that made me feel a bit better when I was in this situation was either seeing the 2 people separately or inviting one or more extra people along so that you have someone to talk to even if your original two are wrapped up in each other and leaving you out.

The second time this happened to me the other woman seemed to enjoy 'competing' with me and getting all my BF's (now DH) attention and enjoyed seeing my discomfort. When I invited another woman along and I didn't care anymore what the original one was doing because I had someone else to talk to the original woman got moody and bitchy about the other woman.