DP went out for 'a drink' after work and it's past midnight and he's not home

[fumingyetsad]

I am so angry with him. The DC are ill and he knows friday night is my usual bath/magazine time for myself.

FIL is visiting tomorrow and no doubt he will be hungover and grumpy.

His phone is going straight to answerphone. Last I heard from him was at 7 when he said he'd be back soon. He only had £20 on him when he left the house this morning and I have his cash card so if he's out who knows how he's affording it.

I'm not being unreasonable surely? I can't sleep until he gets in as I'm worrying now.

jesus - if i went out - it would be a shit night if i reurned before midnight.

i dont think its normal that your waiting up for him and expecting him to be home before midnight

i dont think its normal that hes ignoring you ( probably becuase of the former) and you are not communicating

good grief woman, go to bed.

How often does he do it? And when was the last time you went out?

I've got to wait up he has no keys and I don't want him to wake the DC. I don't give a shit if he stays out all weekend so long as he lets me know.

I waited until 9 then cooked dinner for myself. I haven' been able to relax all evening not knowing if he'd be home any minute.

custardo why be so rude. I would just like to know what he is doing. To say he'll be back soon at 7 suggests just that.

In your situation I too, would begin to worry. Is it normal for him to switch off his phone when he's out for the evening? Could he be somewhere it is difficult to get a signal? ( I was in a club a few weeks ago and there was no signal inside so had to go outside if I needed to use my phone). It is one thing to go out for the evening, but quite another to be out of contact, especially when DC are unwell, and to be relying on you being awake when he gets back because he has no keys. I would certainly have something to say to him about that. I would also be tempted to todle off to bed and 'not hear' when he does get home! Disconnect the doorbell so he can't wake the DC.

Hmm. That's very annoying that you need to wait up cos of the keys.

lock the door, leave a note saying "door's locked" and leave him to fend for himself for the night - his fault considering he said he'd be home "soon" at 7pm

It is childish and selfish behaviour, sure - but is it something that happens regularly, or is this the first time? I would suggest texting him that the essential doorkey is in xxx plantpot in the porch and going to bed.

This would piss me off bigtime. I'm with you - don't mind if he stays out, but it's basic respect to text or ring and say it'll be a late one, don't wait up or worry.

Do you know who he's out with? Are you worried or just annoyed?

"I would suggest texting him that the essential doorkey is in xxx plantpot in the porch and going to bed."

I wouldn't do this alone in the house with the DCs, but then I'm from the "lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine!" school of thought

Is he back now FYS?

Texting him isn't the same as leaving the key in an obvious place, with a note on it, for any burglar to see, NPAM. Unless the absent DH is in fact out on the rip with his gang of burglarish, axe-murdering mates or something and one of them might read the text on his phone and go rushing off to his house to do bad things...

I know the chances of anyone else intercepting the text is slim, SGB.
I've noticed lots of people both hiding and retrieving keys outside their doors and although I'm honest enough not to take advantage, too many unfortunately would, so I just wouldn't take the chance in doing it myself.

dp is such a happy soul when he's drunk that its hard to be cross with him, even when wakes me and DS when he's home because he wanted to say hello

fumingyetsad really hope your DP's home safely

I wouldn't be able to sleep either, would worry that something had happened to him. But you sound very sure that your DH hasn't come to any harm, that he is purposefully staying out late...that makes me think this isn't the first time it's happened! In that case I'd be furious.

What time did he get in?

is he back yet? everything ok?

I would be worried too. If he txt at 7ish and said he would be home soon, I would expect it to be within an hour or maybe 2 and certainly not after midnight.

I hope he has turned up and all was OK!!

If you were trying to phone him and getting no answer, he should have his phone with him and be able to call you (or text) so if it were me, I would leave a note on the door (and send a text) and ask him to phone or text you awake, so you can let him in, then lay in bed awake. If you fall asleep, it's ok, you are in bed.

My DH just asked after you, OP. . .we both hope your DH got home safely.

this seems like her only post...its not right to post something like this and not come back and update on what has happened.

Why do people do that??

That's why DH and I were getting worried. . .you'd think if the OP's DH had turned up ok she'd have been back to have a completely justifiable moan.

I assumed she was a regular but namechanged for this, but maybe not.

Perhaps she killed him and he's hidden under the plant pot with the spare key.

Did we hear anything else about this?

I just found this on watch. Did we ever find out?