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IAm I just being paranoid?

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HappyHome · 27/03/2009 13:43

I suspect that this runs far deeper then I am able to write on here but here goes....
I have a DS and when he was born I suffered with PN Depression, I had to give up my job to be a SAHM and found it very lonely and isolating. At the time my mum who I was very close to was starting a new career and was very involved in that and as a result now says that she wasn't even aware that I was depressed.
Fast forward to now and my younger sister has had a baby and is due to start back at work soon. My mum is going part time at work so that she will be off on the days that my sister needs childcare but my mum will not say to me that she is doing it to look after him. I have asked her and all she will say is she will help out occasionally which is fair enough but I still can't help thinking that she is avoiding admitting that she will be helping my sister with childcare on a weekly basis. If she would just say that they have made plans and this is what is happening then I could accept it but as it is I feel as though I am being indirectly lied to by them.
Am I being paranoid?

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dearprudence · 27/03/2009 13:48

How do you feel about your mum helping your sister? Are you secretly a bit resentful or do you really not mind?

It sounds like your mum is avoiding being straight with you because she feels guilty that she is helping your sister when she didn't help you in the same way.

How old is your DS? Has the PND gone now?

It sounds like you need an honest talk with your mum.

AccioPinotGrigio · 27/03/2009 14:00

As an older sister who was regularly edged out and lied to by my mum and younger sister I am not sure I could give an objective view on this.

My view is you are probably not being paranoid, however I would hope your mum is feeling a bit guilty about it and will make amends somehow.

HappyHome · 27/03/2009 14:03

Thanks dear prudence, If I am being honest i am a bit resentful as I felt that my mum wasn't there when I needed her.
My DS is 8 now so it all happened along time ago but this has made me think about old issues and how I felt about not having the support I needed.

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HappyHome · 27/03/2009 14:09

Hi APG, sorry to hear its not just me who gets this treatment!

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